Different religion problem?

Question

So I've been dating this guy for a really long time. All of our friends say he has talked about getting engaged recently. I'm super siked! There is only one problem, I'm Jewish, he is Mormon.

My parents want me to marry a Jewish boy, and I'm sure his parents want him to marry a Mormon girl.Even though his parents have known me since we were like 8. I'm so scared that we wont be able to be together because of religion. What should I do?

BTW= I will not convert:)

Answer 1

If you love him it is your choice, but make sure you really want to marry him, then do it. BUT put into consideration your parents thoughts they know best

Answer 2

I'm Jewish and I know exactly what you're talking about. As long as you are Jewish, your children will also be Jewish, regardless of whether they go to Synagogue on Sabbath or not. My parents also want me to marry a Jewish boy - not because they are prejudiced, but because of the culture and heritage we share and the way we live. The big question is - would your family accept him if he converted to Judaism? (Obviously to convert to Orthodox Judaism it would take up to 5 years, whereas you can get someone to convert in 2 weeks in NY, but that's in a Liberal Synagogue only). Do you want him to convert? Let's face it, the Torah is the Old Testament and Jesus was Jewish, so it's not like he was from a completely different faith. Another issue I would raise, is that Mormons are allowed to have more than 1 wife. Would you be able to live with your husband if he chose to marry another woman a few years down the line? As for the issue of children - they will be born Jewish as you are Jewish. Would your future husband allow your children to practise Judaism or would he start imposing his Mormon beliefs.

Religion DOES matter, even if, at the begining it seems like a non-entitiy.  

Answer 3

ugh, i'm catholic and dated a jewish girl once. it was too tough for both of us. hee parents put a lot of pressure on her not to even date me, and mine didn't care. it is very hard to overcome this  hurdle, and rarely happens.

Answer 4

Many,many couples have different religious beliefs.Some do convert,some do not.It is a subject the two of you need to agree upon before you get married.Will he go his church while you go to yours?Many people do that too.Are his beliefs including more than one wife?When you have children,which religion will you want them to be?It's a tough one,but definately something you work out between the two of you.

Answer 5

If you two want to get married, you will need some HARD marriage counseling and lots and lots of planning.

Like, are you going to raise your children Mormon, Jewish, or something else? Or nothing at all?

How are you going to get your families to accept this?

etc.