Difficult Decision Opinions Welcome?

Question

I haven't seen some of my family in over 2 years(they live about 8 hours away). I'm 18 years old and they really haven't been there for me and we rarely talk. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and he has always been there for me when I was sick, when I needed help with bills, when I needed anything he was always there. My family is asking that I come visit them but leave my boyfriend. I really wanted my boyfriend to meet them, but they said they want to just see me and catch up. My boyfriend really wanted to meet them too and I don't want to leave him behind and hurt him. I don't even know how to tell him they don't want him up there. I would be so hurt if someone said that to me. Any advice on what to tell him to not hurt him or what to do?

Answer 1

The first question is, do you want to see your family? If so, can you handle them without him?

It is important to keep in contact with them, as long as that contact isn't detrimental to you physically or mentally. If you haven't seen them in about 2 years, you may very well need time to catch up, and as well meaning your boyfriend, it sounds like you all have a lot to talk about.

However, I would make it clear that your boyfriend is a part of your life and although you are willing this time to leave him behind, you won't be making a habit of it.

If you work things out with them, then perhaps you can plan a trip in the near future to see them. If it doesn't, then you don't have to worry about subjecting your boyfriend to them.

I would tell him that you have a lot to work out with them and as much as they want to meet him, and as much as you want him to go, this doesn't sound like the best time.

Or - you can go, stay in a hotel with him, but just see them during the day.

re: what you added: In that case - tell them what you told us. He's been there through a lot, he's a part of your life, a very important part, and if they truly want to talk and catch up, then they can do it with him there. If they don't like it, well, tell them they can visit you or put you up in a hotel room so he can be there after each days' visit.

Answer 2

tell your famiy to s***w off!

ha, jk

tell them that you love him and you really want him with, and it's rude that they're asking such a thing.

p.s. what kind of family do you have? lol

Answer 3

Family first.  Just tell him, if he's always there for you, then he'll still be there when you get back from your family business.  Just tell him the situation.