Difficult child in my sons class?

Question

my son is 6 and there is another boy in his class who is a big bully. im very friendly wiht most of the other mums and every day our kids are coming home from school saying that this child has been punching and kicking them adn even stealing there lunch. they are also missing out on the teachers attention alot of the time as she is so busy trying to control him. we are all very aware that this child gets absolutely no disipline at home.

yesterday one of the mums was helping in the class and this child punched her 17 month old baby in the face. he was finally suspended for 2 days, but now his mother is abusing the helper mum for telling the principal about the incident.

ok sorry for the long story but does anyone know if there is a way we can get this child removed from our school? this has been going on for a year and a half and its not getting any better! we are tired of our children being bullied!

Answer 1

If the teacher and the school administration is refusing or unwilling to do anything about it, maybe all the moms need to band together and bring documented incidents to the attention of the school district.  If this kid's mother is also being abusive, there is something much bigger going on there.  Children have a right to an education free from bullying.  If the parents don't step up, things will continue.  Since there is strength in numbers, you all need to join forces.  

But seriously...the school district and higher ups need to know about it.  At it's basic level, the school is setting itself up for legal problems if this kid seriously injures another kid.  

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

a big problem with this is the mother - and the child is going to suffer.  He obviously has been branded by the class that he is a bully - all the moms call him this so, of course, your children are too.  Even if he doesnt do anything - the kids will  say he did.  Its just there age, its what they do.  I've seen this happen a number of times.  I understand this child has been rough but he is only 6 and needs help and attention.  Teach your child to be nice to him and patient.   Just keep telling this kid that it hurts etc when he does stuff but also to say nice things when this boy does nice gestures.   Trust me, this kid wants friends - he is just getting such mixed signals from his mom.    Maybe go out on a limb and invite him over after school - maybe with more positive reinforcment from others he will turn himself around.   remember, these kids are only 6 and dont have the maturity yet to understand the consequences of their actions.

Answer 3

Check out www.bullypolice.org it has a lot of useful information of the laws against bullying in schools and what can be done if anything, dependant on the state.

Answer 4

If the Mom isn't doing anything then what the school does may not help.

Every child has the right to got o school and not be afraid of being hit. I am going through this with my 9 year old girl. She is a very quiet child and follows all rules. She is scared to speak up.

I would tell the kids to speak up as soon as it happens. Eventually I would think the school would be tired of this.

I would also sit down with the teacher and talk to her. Get her imput on it. Then go to the principle and tell him what happened when he was punished. Being rewarded for bad behavior will only make it worse. Suggest a in school supension. That is when they stay in one room all day. Usually by themselves. There teacher will have work for them to do. They even have to eat there lunch by themselves. it is not fun. I am told by the principle that this is better in this situation. If you still get no where then a group of parents should go up to the district office and speak to the superintendant. Then you will get some place.

With my daughter the school is great. She is just so scared to speak up. He stole her chips in the morning. The teacher tried to find out who did it and didn't. The whole lunch room was punished so they had 5 minutes of quite chew time. My daughter saw he had them and told him. She was sent to the wall for 5 mintues for talking. She felt she broke a rule and wouldn't speak up. The teacher didn't really do anything in her eyes in the morning so why tell her again. So she told me after she had been home for 1 hour. She wouldn';t go to the office because she felt she would be in trouble for breaking rules. If the school would have known they would have handled it. This is a child that threatens to hit my daughter and makes her  cry. She doesn't play with anyone this week because she is scared. A social worker is coming outside now and talks to her. She has lots of friends but just cannot play because of fear.

The mother of this child has been contacted. He has had indoor suspensions and dentention. Also he has had Saturday detention. The Mom says it is my daughter terrorizing him. Not!! I can say my daughter has never been in trouble for anything. Not even told to stop talking. The School has told her this. If he says he is going to hit her or continues anything to scare her he will be expelled from school. I know that this will cause problems if it does happen but I will handle that when it happens. The school has always protected my daughter if they know.

Also mention about how he acts in class. How he takes away from the other kids. Maybe he needs a social worker. They have them in schools! Or does he need to go to a school for children with bad behaviors! They have them also for public schools. alot of times kids are jealous and they strike out at the kids that have what they want. Maybe his mom buys him things but doesn't really spend time with him. Is he jealous that you spend time with yours. He could go home and maybe his mom doesn't show him any attention. Some parents spend time with there kids by buying things. Sad.

Hope it gets better.

Answer 5

I'm assuming that this is in a public school system.  If you are not finding any resolution/support from your administration then you really do need to escalate this situation to the superintendent.  School superintendents do not like to hear that things are going unresolved at their schools and will in most cases jump on the situation.  The best bet would be to band together as parents with a grievance and if you need to initiate a grievance against the teacher and school principal.  You may want to meet as a group with the principal to address this first, but if they are still reluctant definitely escalate the complaint.  Many schools have anti-bullying policies and if the school is not following policy you have a definite case.

Good luck.

Answer 6

I guess this child is taking his lead from his mother if she abuses other Mothers there is not much hope for the child.  I would think your first approach should be to the Headmaster if that does no good the your next step should be the education authority. I feel sure the school must be aware of the problem after all he must be a teachers nightmare.  Is there anything you could do to help this child at all before getting him banned?

Answer 7

i doubt you could have the RIGHT to remove a child that isnt yours from a school but set up a meeting between the teacher, the mother and the principal and try and sort it out. if that doesnt work ask the principal for the district school office number as they will handle all the schools in your area and try to get them to sort it out

Answer 8

go file a report with your police department since the school isnt doing much

press assault charges too.

that should get this kids parents attention

this child is acting out because it gets him attention

he needs to be taught that good behavior gets you attention too. call child services too this child is probably hit  at home and neglected too