Difficult choice to make....?

Question

I have just learnt that one of my colleagues where I work may be leaving for a new job. I am only working there temporarily and will be leaving soon. I have loved working there and it would be my dream job. I know that some of the people there would like to see me working there long term. Here's the catch, I have fallen for my male colleague and although superficially we get on well, sometimes it's hard to be around him. He has suggested in the past that he is not interested in any relationships and also that I'm not his type. He has also hinted in the past that if a vacancy came up he'd like me to work there long term. In the past I e-mailed him and said I would decline if that was the case (because it would be hard to work with him knowing I have feelings). I feel torn between the possibility of having my ideal job and working with him, or declining. If I declined I don't know how to explain to everyone why I have, because they all know how happy I am. Help.

Answer 1

take the job, you'll be loosing out on a chance for your dream job. just because you like the guy, you shouldn't make that stop you from accepting the job.

Answer 2

You need to let go of him and follow you job. It will be hard working with him but your ideal job. is that really worth giving up for a boy. All men are replaceable. It does not feel like that now, but when you are married with kids you will be pleased you took the harder path and have your dream job than feeling you lost out because of a man.

Also go with you gut feeling... in choices of the heart it is normally right.

Good luck  

Answer 3

Forget the guy take the job.  It will be difficult at first but guys come and go but a dream job doesn't.  Don't pass up this opportunity or you will always regret it.  Hope this helps.

Answer 4

That is a hard choice, but think about it sensibly. If you love this job and an opportunity has opened itself to you, take it! You don't know when another chance like this could come by and you don't want to give it up for a guy! As for it being hard to be around him, let's be honest, what are the chances of your feelings for him continuing? Yes, it may be hard at first, but you have to be strong and just really make yourself understand that a relationship with him wont happen. Don't' let this opportunity pass you by, be strong and go after your dreams.  

Answer 5

Take the job - it will give you good experience for future jobs if it gets too difficult working with him but hopefully it will turn out fine and you can stay there