So I've been with this guy for 2 years and turns out he's married. Once I found out I broke up with him. Prior to this we had planned a baby, one month later I'm pregnant. This was 2 months before finding out he's married. Well someone approached me and told me he was married so I did a little digging and purchased a intellus membership and found out that he was married for sure. So he sends an email out and hit the send to all button and me and his wife are in his address book. I guess she was digging too cause she contacted me by email and we spoke. She said that he has been doing this ever since they got married back in 2003. She said that in 2004 he started seeing this other lady and took care of her child as if it was his own and so wife left him and went back to her own country. She was gone 8 months and he begged and pleaded for her to come back, so she did. First words were "I'm going to keep seeing "jdjdjdj" and I'm going to keep caring for her child." Anyway she said 3 years ago they decide to work on the marriage and she thought that's what they were doing, come to find out he's with me. I believe her and I'm not one to break a family apart but I honestly didn't know he was married. He continued to deny her to me and vise versa. He calls me about the baby and asks if I need anything and buys the big items I need to prepare for the baby. Is it wrong for me to have her leave me alone? She contacts me by instant messenger, myspace, yahoo email always questioning me about my pregnancy. I got fed up and told her if she has any questions to ask him. I tried to be the bigger person and leave him alone and do this on my own but she keeps bugging me. She said she's not going to leave him because she invested so much into the marriage and by that she means 5 years and her words "he takes care of me, I'm not leaving him." I didn't ask her to leave him, nor did I have him choose...I just left. Any advise?
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