Difficulty having intercourse..?

Question

A while ago, my boyfriend of almost a year and I decided to have s*x, but each time he actually tried penetration, it hurt very much and I always involuntarily pull away. We've tried countless, countless times with a little success, but he's never been able to put it in fully. Is there a way to make s*x easier (and less painful)?

If it helps any, some additional information:

I am 19 and (was, technically) a virgin.

It's not a lubrication problem, trust me, and he's definitely hard enough.

I don't use tampons, and I don't m********e by putting anything in myself.

We're both very passionate about each other and regard s*x in the same way, and he's considerate and gentle when we get to that point.

We've tried missionary, doggy, girl-on-top, and reverse cowgirl.

If there really is nothing else I can do but to bear it until I get used to it, then that's what I'll do. But hey, it doesn't hurt to ask a question and maybe get some options, right? =)

Answer 1

It does hurt at first, but that ends and it should be ENJOYABLE! Sounds like he may just be too big for you.  

Answer 2

maybe try by yourself to start putting things up yourself that are smaller than your boyfriend to "loosen" yourself up or to stretch it a little bit or get used to the idea

Answer 3

I think since it's hurt the first few experiences, your body subconsciously anticipates pain associated with the action. So the muscles compress, causing you to tense up. I think if you could relax your body more during s*x, it would probably hurt less. Positive thinking! lol

Answer 4

Maybe you're too tense? You need to relax completely the first time.

My first time wasn't sore, but everyone is different and if you're sure it's not a lubrication problem then all I can say is maybe your muscles are tensing which would make it painful.

Don't think 'oh know, what if it doesn't go it' while he's trying because you're body will pick up on this worry.

Answer 5

What many young men are unaware if is how to stimulate a woman to the degree that she lets her guard down. s*x is based on trust. also, help him explore different angles of penetration .

Answer 6

i can't believe really...are you sure that the person is really a guy?

Answer 7

My first response is to tell you to relax.  It can be like a cause and effect...if you think it is going to hurt then it probably will.  Are you sure that you are ready for this step...because if you are not then that may have something to do with it (I just thought I would throw that in there).  Just be patient with yourself and ask your partner to be patient with you and I would engage in lots of foreplay.  Hope this helps...