Dining with a male friend...what does him ordering for me mean?

Question

The first couple times we went out to eat,

I'd order what I wanted when I wanted it...

but now he has started influencing my order in little ways:

Ordering my drink for me, (he's normally right)

Telling the waitress I don't want any dessert

Telling the waitress what sides I should have with my meal

Is this him showing me that he knows what I want or

is he trying to show possesion?

Answer 1

i always tell my fiance what i want and then he orders for me..  it is a gentlemanly thing to do..  tell him that it is very nice that he is trying to anticipate your needs but you would prefer to order for yourself unless you tell him what to get you..  or if you don't want to say that then tell him what you want before the server gets there so that he knows what to order for you..

Answer 2

From experience it means one of three things.  One, money is tight for him and he is trying to keep the meals within his budget.  Or two, he is very possessive in that he wants his women a specific way, think back and see if he tries to get you to do or eat or wear things you do not want.  This is not a good sign.  Lastly, he could just try to be really nice but it is coming off in a different way.  You know much more about him but with other actions you should be able to see how he really feels.  Or maybe just ask him.  If he is trying to make you someone you are not he will be blunt enough to tell you so.

Answer 3

Try to be abit more assertive whilst ordering if he takes over get rid. Trust me if youre having doubts already then find someone new!

Answer 4

Back in the day a gentleman always odered for the lady.

Now anything goes..........it could mean anything.

Answer 5

If you don't enjoy it then before you sit down at a restaurant, explain to him you'd like to order your own food, thank you. Don't be rude, just say you'd enjoy ordering for yourself.

Answer 6

trying to impress you, and a little bit of a control issue to it sounds like.....

Answer 7

He's either trying to be pimp, be old-fashion, cheap or controlling.

Regardless of the reason, he's being a d*ck. Move on. If you haven't asked or said something by now, you plly like it though.

Answer 8

i think he likes you and is being old fashion

Answer 9

he's been controlling, he doesn't respect your individuality. tell him you can order for yourself!

Answer 10

He starting to suck your soul out of you

Answer 11

He could be trying to impress you or control you.  The next time he tries to order for you, look at the waiter or waitress and say, "you know, I think I need a couple more minutes" then tell your date what you would like to order almost as if you are asking his opinion.  This would be a good way to feel him out; see if he just thinks you both are so in tune that he can do this for you, or if he argues with you, then he's just being a jerk and then you can forget him!