Disability- do you let it get you down?

Question

i had a bad motorbike accident and I'm lucky to be alive, i took the end of my finger off smashed my wrist (8 screws and a plate) and got a very bad open fracture on my leg and now i have a bar and 4 screws in it. but all this and i still go to work and run around the park after my 2 boys. i love walking and cycling. yes my leg hurts like h**l but i don't whinge to people its my problem.

what annoys me is that other people would give up and scrounge off the social and moan that they cant do anything because it hurts.

Answer 1

Thank you for sharing your experience with me, I feel privileged to have the opportunity to read it and respond to you.  Please, do not read this as sarcasm, I am serious.  I had surgery nine years ago that left me with a disability, chronic pain.  I have difficulty moving about sometimes due to the level of pain.  I have multiple nerves that have been damaged in my groin.  I take medication and have had multiple surgeries in an effort to "correct" the problem.

I sometimes find myself getting down because of my inability to live life the way I used to.  It is an inspiration to read stories like yours and realize that I may not have it as bad as I might think I do.  Unfortunately, I will go about my duties and eventually forget this little foray, which will lead me back down into my depression.  I will, however, try to remain positive and remember that there are those out there who are in a worse position than I.  This is not always easy.  It is not easy to explain to others how you are feeling when they cannot feel it for themselves.  It is not easy to always remember that your own disability is not the end of your existence.  It is not easy to see tomorrow as another day instead of another day with increasing pain.

Thank you!

Answer 2

They do it because they can.

Answer 3

You are right there.

Answer 4

well, you choose what you want to be. ^.*

Answer 5

I think it's great how ur dealing with it and not moaning about it.  I can imagine it's quite difficult to suddenly have a disability and learn to accept it.  I've had a disability since birth that affects my walking and coordination slightly, I often get pains and find it quite frustrating but I've never felt sorry for myself.  My parents have not brought me up to make me feel like I'm disabled or that I have it bad or that I should scrounge off the social, so I find it annoying when people do that.  People with disabilities should really just enjoy life really and never sit around saying that you can't do anything, because otherwise they'll just be wasting their lives being miserable.  

Answer 6

I come from the other side, insofar as my Disability was not due to any accident, no surgery, nothing went wrong. I succumbed to Rheumatoid Arthritis at the young age of 29. However I continued on until I was 40, before they decided to give me Disability.Most people apply, have a hard time getting it, with me they handed it to me on a plate. Not a good sign! It is one thing to have a 'reason' for your health problem, car crash, diving into a swimming pool, falling off a horse, but when you wake up one morning with a red hot swollen toe and four days later are told you have RA, it kinda sucks. Likewise their is no cure, let alone real treatment, except to keep one out of pain. Likewise the risk of premature death from RA is high, due to cardiovascular problems. It takes a long time to get all these facts around the old grey cells, let alone accept the facts, truth. Moreover the quality of your life deterioates, so things you once did you can no longer do, I was very active and into sports, no more. Employment, forget it. In the last year my circle of driving milage has reduced, so any drive longer than fifty miles alone is the limit, can make 100 miles if I have someone with me, but have to have several stops along the way. I am now finding small things, opening tins, can, bottles, hard, along with slicing meat off a joint, because the hands are affected. Instead I try to conscentrate on what I can do, walk three miles three times a week, do the house work, decorate, mow the lawn and so on. As to why people moan and groan, because they have not accepted they have a health problem and even a small problem like, I fell and hurt my elbow do you think it is broken, to that person is a BIG problem. Should that person every have a car accident or succumb to RA, I often wonder if they would be able to cope? Physiciall my pain is under control, due to Fentanyl. Emotionally, well I do get upset, usually because my siblings have no idea what I go through, because I look so HEALTHY and Psychologically I am aware of the disease, the reality and have accepted my fate. However, I do not let it get me down, just do what I know best, keep putting one foot in front of the other. Best of Luck

Answer 7

i have a very good friend who acualy lost his leg from a motorbike accident/almost severd his arm, this man walks with crutches ,is 43 year old ,and works in an office ,i admire this man so much ,and people like him who have had such terrible injurys .i send you my love and best wishes,  

Answer 8

A friend of mine had a medical emergency that semi-paralyzed him from the waist down. He is almost fully recovered by now, but still in a wheelchair. I don't think he ever showed any signs of depression, and he was laughing and smiling every time I went to visit him.

I, fortunately, do not have any disabilities, so I cannot personally answer your question.