Discipline for 4 yr. old?

Question

My friend just adopted a 4 year old girl and she's been in the home for four-five months.

The girl is physically violent towards her pre-school/day care teachers. So much so, they have asked my friend to remove Brittany from their program. This is a great issue because Mom works and is a single mom.

Mom has gone to the school at lunch and Brittney is fine for about 20 mins. after she leaves and then all heck breaks loose again. The child kicks and throws herself on the floor and verbally threatens the adults.

Mom understands there are psycologoical issues and they are in thearpy, but what can be done about the behavior at school right now and in the short term?

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

i think she has been tromatized because she is scared to love someone and now she has found someone to love she is scared of losing them so when she sees her new mommy leave she thinks she is leaving her and not comming back that's why she takes it out on the teachers she thinks if she is naughsty to the teachers mommy will come running then she knows she is loved but now that she is getting away with it she is doing it now just to get attention but i can say she will not calm down till she is much older to understand because she has been hurt and she doesn't feel loved and she doesn't know how to cope with this sudden change from getting a new mummy then a new school it is all just to fast for a little girl to take in

Answer 2

well unfortunatley i dont know if there is such a thing as short term help for this situation....this young girl obviously has some issues that must stem from the past..(not her fault as she is just a child) all i can say is continue to be patient with her put her into a school program with teachers who are better suited to work with children like this who will also b patient with her...this is going to take a long time but hang in there ...thats what being a parent is

for the guy who said "physical reprimand" that is the last thing a child who probably came from an abusive home needs (wether is was physical,verbal,neglect) this child needs love patientce and understanding if this mother has any hope of breaking the chain this young girl has come from..

Answer 3

I would say physical reprimand but I think that's illegal...

Answer 4

Mom should seek an in home sitter who is knowledgable and has dealt with children with special needs.  It will probably cost mom a bit more, she may want to check with social serivces and see if they can help out with the cost.

Answer 5

I've seen this behavior before with young children. I used to work with young children. If anything, designate an area called "the naughty chair, rug, corner, etc." and place the child on it and get down to their level and firmly say why they are being placed there. Leave them there one minute per their age. If they leave, don't say anything, just keep putting them back. Eventually they will cave in and stay. And when its time to let them out, tell them why they were put in there softly and ask them for an apology. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

Its not your problem, stay out of it. If they are in counseling I'm sure it's being addressed. Adopting a special needs child is difficult, obviously if she is 4 she has likely suffered a great deal and is extremely needy.Special needs meaning she has emotional problems and needs a great deal of patience and understanding. She may or may not grow out of it.

What you can do is be a good friend and listener and encourage your friend.

Answer 7

The child needs a spanking. Every time there needs to be a regular basis . Even the Bible tell you if you the rod you spoil the child. No do not abuse the child. NO PROOF. The is a difference between abuse and an old fashioned spanking. No broken limbs of bruises. At the time you have to spank the child hard enough that she gets the point. Hope I helped

Answer 8

I think that she is afraid that her new mommy will leave her again and she needs to know that she will come back so leave her with a stuff animal and before her mom leaves she should tell her that "you needs to be good and when mommy gats back I will spend special time with you "  Than kiss her and the animal and leave when she gets bak if she was bad than she should say "I told you that If you were good we would do somthing special but you were not a good girl today so you will say sorry to your teachers and we will go home."  If she was good say "I heard you were a good girl today and mommys really proud lets go find something fun to do because you were a good girl today"

Answer 9

JAIL!





No, JK maybe ground her until she realizes that this is unnacceptable.  First ground her for a short period of time, then a little longer, and keep going until the behavior stops.

Answer 10

this is what grandparents are for.