Discipline or child Abuse?

Question

The things I get in trouble for are small like forgetting to make my bed in the morning or something. Sometimes its worse depending on her mood, something as simple as not looking at her while she talks can set her off. When she’s mad she’ll hit me over and over mostly on the head. I don’t bruise easily so I very seldom have bruises, but sometimes my face swells and burns. After that I get a long belt session which leaves welts all over.I also am yelled at all the time, and cant be around others that yell. I don’t have much friends and I don’t sleep well. Even if I should get help I don’t have any proof. My mom says it discipline but is it abuse?

Answer 1

That's definitely abuse. I'm so sorry you're going through this! It is NOT discipline and your mom is just making excuses. It's not fair for you to stay in that environment. You should get help. If your father is out of the picture, do you have anyone else you could talk to about this? You could talk to a teacher at school or you could call 1 800 4 A CHILD (1 800 422 4453), the national child abuse hotline in Canada and the USA. If you are in Canada, you can call Kids Help Phone, 1 800 668 6868. You shouldn't have to deal with this situation alone. Good luck!

Answer 2

No honey,that's abuse. I think what is happening is that your Mom is really angry about your Dad running off an leaving her with such a big responsibility of having to pay all the bills and raise you at the same time. It isn't easy having to be a single parent. However that still does not excuse her action's toward you. She is your Mom and should love you and protect you,not hurt and abuse you. You need to speak too a counselor at school,and let them know what is happening. This way they can get you some help,right away. Now I know that you may not want to do this,but it is the only way out of this safely. They will contact Child Protective Services,and have you removed from your Mom's custody. You will be put in a Foster-Home until at which time they can be assured that your Mom has been given the help she needs,too cope with all the stress that she is under,not too mention the stress your under as well. Maybe in time your Mom might except that she has a real problem. Hopefully,they will put you in a good foster family,one that believes in God. Either way,I hope you do. God will be there for you,when know one else will be,I know this from experience. I grew up in a abusive-home so I know how you feel,back then they didn't have the help they do today for you,so be grateful that they now do. Just turn your life over too God,and your life will be much happier. I wish you all the Luck in the World.May God always be at your side.God's speed sweetie.

Answer 3

Definitely abuse and you should get help! Try setting up a hidden recorder or video camera to get proof, if it comes to that. Discipline does not involve belting sessions or continuous smacks on the head.

Answer 4

If what you say is true then it is abuse, big time. It sounds like she has anger issues. Where is your father? Can he help?

Answer 5

It's definetly mental abuse and way too extreme, so yes it's abuse.

Answer 6

I'm a mom. It's abuse.

Answer 7

abuse........   when punishing kids, you dont give them "long belt sessions" that defeats the purpose of discipline.  you need to tell a school counselor that your mom does that.... and get that taken care of, because whether your a bad kid or a good kid, no kid needs to be beat around like that at all..  im all for spankings, but there's an age where you cant spank a child anymore.... and thats beyond spanking.........

Answer 8

It sounds like youre reading a page out of my life as a chld/teen. This is definitely abuse. My mom was bipolar and refused treatment, so of course things went fro bad to worse. No one tried or even wanted to help me. Looking back now I wish I would have told a teacher or my school counselor. I know now that I should have told and kept telling until someone did something so that I wouldn't have suffered for as long as I did. Now she's remarried and he has a 11 yr old kid whom she abuses. The cycle continues and I feel guilt for not saying something when something could be done. I'm a mom now and I will never abuse my kids. Do something, you don't have to live like this.