Discipline question?

Question

my 6 year old girl got mad and called me a b**** she has never swore before what should i do?

Answer 1

For me, this is a big deal.  I feel the use of foul language by children, and in-your-face disrepect to adults, should never be tolerated for a minute.  It sends the wrong message to the child and leads to increasingly bad behavior as they get older.

First, I would ask her where she heard the word.  If it was at school, you don't have much control there.  If it was on TV or at a friend's house, I'd take some action to limit exposure.  God forbid she heard it at your house (anyone at your house a little loose with language around the kiddies?).  I'd explain to my daughter that that is a hurtful, bad word and is never used by people in our family because it is important to be kind & polite to others.  I would tell her that bad words are forbidden in our home at all times and I would give a loss of privileges just severe enough so that she would understand the seriousness of the offense.  But, I wouldn't go overboard with consequences, either, since she almost certainly didn't understand what she was saying, just repeating a word she heard somewhere.  In the future, you'll have more opportunities to identify other words as "one of those words that aren't kind or polite that our family doesn't use in our home."  Hope this helps.  (I'm sure others will tell me that I'm too much of a prude, but none of my 3 children has ever used bad language--at least not around me!)

Answer 2

well you need to explain to her that this is a hurtful word and that she is not aloud to say it next time she says it put some dish soap on your finger and rub it in her mouth thats what my mom always did. hope  i helped!

Answer 3

spank her and let her know why before you do it ,too.......Also,let her know the reason you are spanking her for this is because you love her..........Spankings from my parents never hurt me,if anything it made me understand right from wrong therefore learning that over the years has tought me lessons for things.....And,now that I am a parent I make an extremely good parent..........

Answer 4

No dont spank her the first time she said it. I'm pretty sure she doesn't even know what it means. there are others ways of discipline. if sshe says it again, take away her favourite toy for the day or something.

Answer 5

Do not make a big deal out if it or she will do it again hoping to get a reaction out of you. Just discipline her like you would for anything else.

Answer 6

I'd ask her where she got that word from, for a start.  And I would make it perfectly clear that is never ever to use it again.  I take it you don't swear in front of your children?  

Once you have set the groundrules you can decide on the punishment if she ever does it again.  You don't have to smack her, if you are uncomfortable with it, but you have to make sure the punishment hurts.  The removal of a favourite toy or treat might be enough.  It's up to you.

Answer 7

Yes you should but first explain to her why it is not okay to say that word and that you don't want to spank her, but her behavior was just not okay and that is why you are doing it. Make sure that she understands beforehand why she is going to be spanked.  Put her over your knee and give her 4-5 hard swats on her butt with your hand.  Afterwards remind her that you love her and then re-affirm that she understands why she was spanked and that if she ever swears again she will get another.

Answer 8

not for the first or the second offense but on the third strike tan her wee butt

Answer 9

SPANKING?! Child abuse! If you were male then the DSS would be waiting at your door already. However, you have not hit the child yet i assume. Don't do it, it will give the message that violence is an alternative. Please?

Ok, moving on. Talk to her! Try to make her understand that swearing to others is not nice, etc. But do punish her in other ways: take away privileges(such as "tv time", toys, etc), force her to stay indoors while the rest of the kids are playing outside and [a big favorite] labor! Let her do simple choirs at home. Also, understand that, while everyone make mistakes, do not let her first time (or the second, or the third) go unpunished.

Rude kids are a menace.

Answer 10

"my 6 year old girl got mad and called me a b**** she has never swore before what should i do?"

You should sit her down and ask her where she heard that word and why she said it to you.  You should then tell her that the "B word" is a horrible word and she should not ever use it again.

In terms of "how do you spank a 6-year-old"? Simple: By being a sick, twisted bully.

I am 99% against spanking/hitting/beating your kids (The other 1% is if your child is putting you in physical danger or if they're trying to hit you or something).  The message it sends is this: "I'm bigger than you, I'm stronger than you, and I can hit you anytime I want to just because I can".  It also says, "I don't know any other mature way to verbalize my disapproval, so I'm resorting to toddler behavior by lashing out physically".  Think about it.

Answer 11

I would wash her mouth out with soap. take a toothbrush and put some soap on it then brush the tongue, the roof of the mouth, the teeth and the cheek. after that let her rinse thoroughly. Then tell her it is unacceptable and find out where she got it from.