Disciplining kids has a limit?

Question

What are your opinions on giving little kids a smack when they do something wrong? I would think its necessary sometimes, but not as in beating them up. I know alot of people say they would never hurt their children, and others say its needed and that the children come out better and dont make the same mistakes. I wouldn't mind hitting my kids...i mean when i get older and actually have them...but not to the extent that they are bruised. I mean just a smack so they won't do what they did again. I guess you could call it fear, but my parents hit me when i was little, and i don't look at them as serial killers lol. i think it really did help me. But what are your opinions on it? Just curious

Answer 1

I've seen kids screaming and there parents keep beating them over and over again. It doesn't take too many smacks for the kid to get the point. Beating kids until they are bruised is just wrong!

Answer 2

Honestly I was spanked as a child. Well more like I got a whipping. I got the bruises and everything. My dad mostly not my mom. Even though I got them I still thank my parents for raising me that way. They taught me respect not fear. I never feared my parents. I feel that people need to discipline their children more than they do now. I mean honestly the world is going to h**l in a hand basket and we are going to leave it to our children to fix who are spoiled brats who need a serious wake up call. Kids today respect no one. They don't even respect their selves. The only reason people don't spank their kids as much as they should any more is because others have set it into people's minds that it's child abuse. In my mind child abuse is letting do whatever they want and get just a time out. What does that teach them. Oh wait a minute I can go destroy the house and I will just have to sit in the corner and say I'm sorry. Sure they can deal with that. Where's the punishment. How are you teaching them that there are real consequences for what we do. Does that really get the point of you will go to jail if you steal something; or never do that again. I spank my kids not the way my dad did me cause I just don't have the heart, but they get the idea. The type of punishment depends on the crime so to say. I know when I go into a store my kids are not going to be the ones lying on the floor kicking and screaming cause they didn't get their way. They no better. They will also respect me, them selves and others as well.  

Answer 3

Sometime it is necessary  to have to smack a hand or something but there is a big difference in making the child mind and abuse.

Answer 4

I agree spanking is only necessary sometimes. I was spanked as a child to actually as a teen as well and I don't fear my parents to the point that I can't even be in the room with them and my spankings never left marks on my body. I will never bruise my daughter she gets 2 or 3 swats on the behind when needed. there are other forms of discipline that I take first, like timeout or taking toys away.

Answer 5

I say it's fine as long as it's not abusive.  

Answer 6

I don't think it's right at all. A child needs a mother and father to turn to in trouble, not to constantly fear them, and walk on eggshells. There was actually a woman who beat her child for crying during a shot at the doctor's office. Come on now, a little over the top, don't ya think?

Answer 7

I think the key on whatever form of discipline you use is to be consistent. It also depends on how old the child is. I will spank my child occasionally when they do some thing really bad and I feel it's warranted. It's funny too how all the other parents say "I would never spank my child how barbaric" and their kids are out of control. If they were good, then their point might be valid. So I say go with whatever gets the results and makes your child a productive member of society and respectful.  

Answer 8

Everything you do to your child would have a reaction. Smacking them on the arm or bottom would be okay but not to the point that they are afraid of you. Abusing that would only build hatred toward whoever the doer is. It only enrages the person when you beat them. And where do they take that anger and hatred? Back to society where they would harm the next living thing that pisses them off. It would only harm them as they would learn that violence is the answer and could rack up on some serious charges. It is almost like a vicious cycle.

Answer 9

I don't think it's right, regardless of how hard the smack is.  All it does is teach kids it's ok to hit when you lose your temper, and it teaches them to be afraid of you.  I don't want that for my son.

Answer 10

I don't believe in smacking its like saying "I'm hurting you because I love you" which makes 0 sense to  a child their are plenty of other options.

Answer 11

i don't think kids should fear their parents...the best thing to do is to make your kids care about you

Answer 12

Hmm...well, I think generally there are much better ways to discipline as long as you start out disciplining them and teaching them right from wrong from the very beginning.  Sometimes, they can get so out of control that you may need to give them a little swat on the hand or bottom.  But I don't think it should go beyond that.  I think hitting with objects like a belt or something is very wrong and is taking it too far.  My parents raised my brother and me with hardly any spanking- I only remember getting spanked two times when I was little, and it was just a swat on the hand/bottom.  They never used objects on us or anything.  We have both turned out fine and respect our parents.

Answer 13

you're going to get many opinions about this you can try the stern approach when talking to the child if he chooses to get out of line sometimes you got to let the kid know you're not joking he'll know not to make that mistake again. sometimes you just got to do it ,you have to be in control of the child respectively your right not to be exesively beating the child.

Answer 14

I think that it is necessary to discipline children.

I look at the people at my school and so many are spoiled, or totally out of control.

I don't think you need to beat them to the extent where they need to be hospitalized, ever! I think the more they misbehave, the worse the punishment. If you caught them smoking or drinking, maybe even to the extent of bruising, because they are completely out of control. Nowadays, people aren't allowed to discipline their children accordingly, and you can plainly see how the world is getting worse and worse. Suicides have increased, car crashes, overdoses, thefts, you name it. And the people that usually do these thing are not disciplined. What does that tell you? And if you don't think this is a serious problem... I'm only 16 years old, and I think it is necessary. If a 16 year old tells you this, then you know something is wrong

Cheers.

Answer 15

Well, seeing as my 20 month old daughter thinks it's funny when we punish her unless she gets a smack on the hand, I'm all for it now. I don't bruise her, just a tap to the back of the hand on her way to time out. It doesn't even hurt, and it hasn't taught her to hit. I don't lose my temper when she's being punished, so she'll not get that example from me. But she knows when she's not supposed to touch something after a smack. It's no different than allowing your child to do something you know they will get hurt doing, it just teaches actions have consequences. At least in my humble opinion and experience.

Good luck!