We have had my step-daughter (7 years old) in our home full time for almost a year. Through this time, the impact of her sexual abuse in her mother's home has became more and more clear. **Before I ask what I'm about to ask, we do have her in therapy and the therapist has been informed of what is going on, but offers no advice to us, as parents.**
First off, she masturbates often, she keeps an infection in the vaginal area and I'm incredibly worried that it's going to cause some serious problems. Second, last night after tucking her in to bed I came downstairs. A few minutes later I peek in to check on her and she has our dog, and the dog is l*****g her private area. (We have taken the dog and had to tie him up and keep a VERY close eye on him for fear this will occur again.) Third, she has gotten around a 4 year old little boy and she has done things to him of a sexual nature, or tells him about things of a sexual nature or shows him her body parts. We can not continue with these things occuring. We have stressed the fact of how wrong the things that happened to her were. We have also stressed the fact that these things that happened to her by her mom's boyfriend were not her fault and that we love her. I know that things like this take time, but I am very, very worried. We have switched therapists because the past therapist was not doing so well. I'm not impressed with the current therapist either. We really, really need advice from someone who has been there or from someone who has experience in working with children who do these things. Can anyone please help? I have tried help from professionals, so has my husband, and we just want to help her to get to a place in her life where she can be a child and be happy, confident. We are having trouble finding the right person to help us work through this. We are also worried because we are expecting a baby and do not want him to be victimized by sexual abuse either, and are afraid that she could possibly do it to him as well. Does anyone have any advice please? Thank you. God bless everyone for listening and helping!
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