I know I want a divorce from the wife, as she is very unstable. She was institutionalized less than a year ago for swinging at a waiter and two police officers (about a week after she started getting nervous twitches, talking to herself, and ignoring our baby son). I want to get out of the relationship before she neglects him again and sticks me with another 25,000 dollar medical bill.
I know she will contest it, and perhaps be violent about it. There is no other woman in my life, I just can't live with the one that I have. I tried since she was hospitalized to deal with it, but I just can't do it anymore and I don't want my boy growing up in that kind of environment.
What to do? How can I proceed without her knowing (well, until the papers are ready for filing)? Also, our state of Utah requires a mandatory mediation class. I'm sure they will waive it given the circumstances. She is in a downward spiral and I need to get out quickly. I'm considering having a sheriff present at the time I tell her, because I've seen her lose control before and hit policemen and I want a witness to her violent behavior. She is a danger to my son and I--and I just don't trust her alone with him. What kind of a timeframe am I looking at? I'd rather get it over with as quickly as possible. I feel a bit guilty about filing for sole (or at least 3/4) custody with her end being supervised, but it's in his best interest. I know he and I need out, but it's extremely stressful seeing her on a downward decline and wondering what night she's going to snap again. Any advice?
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