Divorce help my hubby wants a divorce what can i do?

Question

Thank you for all your answers you are all wonderful people we are working things out now x*x

Answer 1

Well, that is very sad but things like this do happen.

I left my wife 5 months ago, I decided that I didn't love her anymore and that I was desperately unhappy in the relationship. Last month I went on a boys holiday to Amsterdam and missed her so much I got back in contact with her and this Monday we decided that I would move back in with her and make another go of things. Throughout the whole traumatic experience she never begged or pleaded with me to come back, she just gracefully let me go and got on with her life.

I don't really know your circumstances or why your husband wants to leave you, but from my point of view from my own experience, keep your dignity and let things take their course. There is a philosophy that runs something like "If you love somethng, let it go. If it comes back, your love will be twice as strong,".

As I said, this might not be the best course of action, but it worked with me and my wife. Best of luck, I hope things work out for you. Relationships don't always run smoothly.

Answer 2

There isn't a lot you can do unfortunately.  A marriage requires both sides to be working on it together for it to exist.  If he has given up and chooses to move on then it is over.  All you can do is focus on getting it over with and moving on with your life without him.  I know it is hard but that is all you can do. :(

Answer 3

Give it to him, without a fight. If he wants to move on, let him.

Answer 4

support each other at the end of the day you still can be close friends try and stay calm n tht he myt change his mind but at the end of the dya u want him to be hapopy ryt||?

Answer 5

Sweetheart, if he wants a divorce, there isn't anything you can do. Try and discuss his reasons, but if his mind is made up, hold on to your dignity. Good luck x

Answer 6

let him go.  there's other men in the world.

Answer 7

You can prolong the divorce by contesting it...But why would you want to do that when someone is adamant about wanting a divorce?  Keep your dignity and let him go.....

Answer 8

Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg

on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but

many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring

could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your

spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk

honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more

serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a

blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If

you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it.

http://howtogetmyexback1.blogspot.com/

Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when

you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love

isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may

just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in

love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you

don't think you like the person anymore.

Answer 9

let him go, you might feel happier that you did, unless you're in a situation where you thought something could work after your divorce with someone else then found out they led you on the whole time. thats not cool. anyway it takes time, you'll find someone worth yours someday like i'll find someone worth mine one day.