Divorced kids get away with more?

Question

my parents got divorced because my dad got another lady pergnat and the only negative thing is that i have to go to therapy! because the other kid is my half brother and i kind of resent him for breaking my family up

but anyways,

i noticed i get a lot more things like clothes and have two rooms now. I also have different rules at both houses so i might not get to do something at my moms but i can at my dads.

is this just me or do a lot of kids get this?

Answer 1

Im in the same boat as this but the other way around

My mum got pregnant from another guy and split up with my dad

Both my parents arnt strick atall but they try to outdo eachother, they try and get me better birthday or christmas presents or take me on better holidays etc.

i personally love it, Naturally i take it all for granted which i really shouldnt but your only a kid once so you might aswell take advantage of it. But the rules are the same at both my houses. If you want to do somthing that your dad wont let you just say "well mum said its ok or mum would let me"

It always works for me ;)

i hope that helped

xx

Answer 2

No, you aren't the only kid that has this happen. It is very common that you will get more because both parents want you to like them. Don't take advantage of it though...

Answer 3

It's not that they get away with more... it's that they finally see that each parent has a different parenting style and idea of how to parent.

When parents are married, they tend to present a united front--agreeing on punishments, what's right and wrong, etc.  But, when divorced, they are independent and don't have to worry about having another person to agree with.

My parents have been divorced for 9 years, and I've lived with both separately in that time period.  My parents are very different, as far as their parenting styles, and that showed after the divorce, and never did before-hand.

Don't feel spoiled though, because I'd rather live with two poor married parents than one rich divorced one.

Answer 4

Yep pretty standard. Enjoy the perks but don't milk it and check yourself so you don't start acting like a 'spolied' brat or your parents will force themselves to consolidate rules and team up for the best interest of the child (you)  and your benees will be done quicker then you can ask for a new pony or a Halloween party.

Answer 5

I am 13. My parents got divorced like 8 or more years ago. I get away with alot more. My mom lets me have guys& friends over when ever I want. I can basicly do whatever I want with my mom. When I get to my dads i dont get to do whatever i want i have rules and im allowed to have guys over ut only to like swim for like 3 or 4 hours. So. I defenitly believe us divorced kids get away with plenty more.

Answer 6

its me too, at my moms, i can have my friends over, but my dad wont let me, my dad buys me electronic stuff and my mom buys my clothes, i don't have two rooms, i sleep on the sofa bed at my dads. I also have different rules at both houses.