Divorced parents help me!!?

Question

my parents divorced when i was 4 or 5...im just getting everything that happened...i see my dad but i hate his new family

i wasnt him to live with my mom and i happily! he left us but i want it back!!

if i could have one wish...it would be for my parents to not be divorced! please i am begging you....does anyone feel this way

i miss my mom and dad together...

nothing was wrong he just met someone else...plz im sooo depressed

i cant just move on

please help me forget i cry at the thought of it

i want them together again i hate hate hate my step family

Answer 1

Sorry for the unhappiness caused by the adults in your life.  

Unfortunately, they probably won't get back together if they are divorced and your dad has a new partner.  

I suggest you seek out some counseling so you can develop some coping strategies.  Maybe there is a support group where you can talk to other kids whose parents have divorced.  Counseling will help make things better, I promise.  You can work through this.

Talk to your mum, dad or school counselor (an adult you trust) about it.

Good luck.

Answer 2

I know how you feel.  Ive been there, done that.  Something was obviously wrong with their relationship that you don't know about.  Sometimes it better for them to get divorced than stay together if they are not happy.  If they r not happy you are not happy.  Give your step family a fighting chance.  Be positive.  Every time you think negative, replace it with a positive.  it will eventually get better with time.

Answer 3

i know how you feel, the same thing happened to me, but unfortunatly you cant change the fact that they are divorced, and the only thing you can do is try to move on, thats what i did:)

sorry again

Answer 4

Your Mom and Dad are divorced and he is evidently remarried.  There is nothing you can do that will get them back together.  They probably had other issues as well and not just that he was seeing someone else.  It does hurt. My parents divorced too.  I was older when he left and she divorced him.  He ran around as well.  You don't have to like his new family, though you do need to be civil.  And you can still love him.  He and your mother divorced; he didn't divorce you.  You need to give up on the idea of wanting them together.  it will only keep you from accepting reality.  Let it go.  Continue to love your Dad and your mom.  There are more kids who have divorced parents anymore than those who have parents still married to one another.  

I was divorced, too, after 25 years of marriage and it hurts so our Mom may be hurting right now, but hopefully she wont speak badly of your dad.  I was very angry for awhile.  But my dad and I got along okay and he was married to a couple of women I liked; one of them I liked very much.  Things have a way of working out eventually.  My exhusband remarried and is still married to the same woman and it is probably about 19 years now. I've been remarried 17 years this year.  My mother never remarried.  

Things happen with couples and sometimes they grow apart. Sometimes it is work related.  Sometimes it is just that they are going in different directions and the marriage is really over.  it doesn't have to do with you and they both love  you.  You need to recognize that this was their decision and not about you and you can't make it not happen.  they have made this choice.

Good luck.  Maybe you can ask your mom about counseling for  you to help you get over this and to talk about things with a professional.

Answer 5

i know exactly how you feel my parents got divorced when i was about 5 or 6 and i had the worst time with my step dad. it's hard but God saved me from a life that was unsafe and not at all healthy

Answer 6

its obvious something was wrong between the 2 of them..for him to move on..not trying to sound mean..just from a fathers stand point that just went through a divorce my self..in which my wife done the same thing..these things happen..and happen for reasons that where there is children involved they do not always understand or get the full understanding of why this is going on..most of the time children are not thought of during these situations..the arguing..and sometimes they are used as leverage..its a good bet that your father is not going to get back with your mother..but no1 noes that for sure..it could happen..what you should do is get a couple friends and go do something to help take your mind off of it..have some fun..and try to think of your mom and how she must feel during this..she is probably hurt to..have a long talk with her..maybe the 2 of you could go and have some fun together..there is so much more to life than being mad about something we cannot control..but i do no where you are coming from on this..my parents did the same thing..all we can do is just move on..