Divorced parents with children - what would be the best child custody/visitation arrangements for you?

Question

What arrangements do you currently have? How does it work out, in your opinion?

Answer 1

I'm not divorced, but the custody arrangements should best suit the children, not the parents.  I would say the best arrangement would be for the kids to live with either the mom or dad, with the other parent living next door, or on the same block.  Shuttling kids back and forth is damaging, and confusing.  

Answer 2

My ex husband has our children every weekend and pops in to see them on a wednesday, its wrong to use children against each other and i vow i would never do that, we consult each other about the children (i more than him) and neither of us would disrespect the others new partner.

It works for us, it was hard at the start but biting your lip rather than ranting away has proved 3 years on that children do not have to "go off the rails" as a product of divorce!!

Answer 3

My parents are divorced and they have me and my sister 50/50, which I think is the best way, either that or the kid chooses who they want to live with. I think it's wrong when some parents want full custody just to punish their ex. In fact I'm disgusted when I watch the Maury show and when someone finds out their spouse was cheating they want to take their kids and leave. It's like why should the kids be punished for something the parent did? I know cheating is wrong but children come first. I know that kinda got off topic, but yeah that's my opinion on the whole custody thing.    

Answer 4

anything short of 50/50 is sexist. ( assuming 2 competent parents )

as far as children go we live in a very sexist society where the woman has all the rights and all the say.

Answer 5

My last arrangement was daughter with me at the weekends, best I could do without a **** fight in biased courts with her playing the victim. Her mother wanted to be at home so that suited us both, every second school holidays too. It worked out well in the end.

Answer 6

when i divorced...my ex-husband had the children every weekend...but he was free to see them whenever he wanted...because sometimes he missed them.

i never used them as a weapon against him....even though he was horrible to live with...lol!!

Answer 7

I'm not divoreced. But my parents are. And my brother and I went 50/50.

It worked fine.