Do 'normal' people see shy people as inferior?

Question

I'm just asking because as a shy person I've always thought they did, and that they have reason to because we're inferior in our social skills. But then I thought maybe that's just my paranoia :)

What do you think?

How do you see shy people?

Answer 1

'cuz the don't talk a lot..mmmhh..on italian we said.."il silezio a volte vale più di mille parole".. sometimes, the silence is worth more than thousand words.. baci e abbraccia :) xoxox

Answer 2

I'm a person who can be outgoing in some situations and really shy in others. I think that it depends on the mind in question. Some people will see Shy people as inferior, if the shy person is confident with them self. I know that sounds like it is completely the opposite of shy--but one can like ones self and still be introverted.

I think the people who aren't shy that doubt themselves--ones with self esteem problems would be likely to think that a shy person were inferior.

Personally--I think it depends on the 'air' of the person. A person who carries themselves well--who 'ditches' conversation with another person, would definitely appear as if they believed them self inferior to another. Where as a shy person who was obviously just shy would not.  

Answer 3

I think maybe it's that they think shy people have less confidance. That they can't talk... or maybe even that the shy people think they are the ones better then everyone else.

Answer 4

I'm a million miles away from normal, but I am very confident. To me, all people should be confident. For that reason, I view shy people as self-conscious, as worried about what people will think of them. It's kind of a case in point here, because you're shy and you're worried how people are thinking of you, you know?

I've made friends with shy people...I don't judge them based on their shyness or anything, but I do wish they'd be more confident. Just more fun that way :)  

Answer 5

your not inferior at all. if anything you're more mysterious, however shyness can be a cause of a lack of social development, but that still doesn't mean you're inferior. Although confidence pretty much helps in every situation unless it develops to arrogance. Shyness is much better than arrogance!

Answer 6

I think it's just paranoia - normal people as a group don't all have the same feelings; most I think may like or pity a shy person - or they may not even notice! I am deeply shy, and find talking to people very embarassing, but I do it, and some of my friends are very suprised when I confess how anxious socialising makes me! Sure, there are bitchy people, who think that anyone not a carbon-copy of themselves is not 'normal' and therefore inferior, but most respect what they see of someone else, even if they don't show that much of themselves!

Answer 7

Not really 'inferior'  but I do often wonder why people find it so hard to just say 'Hi, my name is ______"

Answer 8

I don't see shy people as inferior at all- just shy.  I am also of the predisposition they also tend to be nice people and easy to get along with them.  That is why I usually try to reach out to them.  I used to be VERY shy and akward.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

no ur'not inferior

Answer 11

I am very outgoing and social, and I will introduce myself to anyone and everyone and strike up conversations.  I am married to a man who is reserved, quiet and sometimes very shy.  I do not find him inferior, or any other shy person for that matter.  We are all different, with different personalities and preferences.  That doesn't make us inferior or superior.  I worry about being too friendly and coming across as overbearing when I meet people who are shy.  I don't want to offend them or make them a nervous wreck.  If anything, being social and outgoing makes me more compassionate and mannerly.  

Answer 12

NO more likely to think a shy person is innocent and pure and untouched which is very appealing actually.

Basically you lack confidence in your self and as a result thereof have a poor self esteem. We all need to know that we are not a mistake and we are meant to be here on earth and are part of Gods integral plan for earth.  Each one of us has a purpose and given to us so that we may find that purpose are skill, gifts and talents that we would use to the best of our abilities. God wants us to be positive people and nice and loving and reaching out to others in trouble, ill or with problematic lives.  he does not want us to be negative because negative draws more negative to it and leads to destruction.

There is nothing inferior about you.  You need to stop thinking what YOU THINK others think of you. "As a man thinketh so is he!" People will treat you the way you treat yourself and if you refuse to accept yourself the way God made you to be and continue to focus on self and become self absorbed you will end up in the pit of self-pity with all the deceptive negative thoughts feelings and emotions hammering you and telling you that you are a nothing and anybody and should die because you are in the way.  How sad is that?

If you are there already you will say "But i don't feel like I can be positive!" So my answer to you would be: "Then choose to be and override all the negative feelings thoughts and emotions that are whispering untruths in your ears."  Take action and choose to substitute every negative thing with something positive - the opposite to what you are feeling. Reach out to others and get the pity focus off yourself and move forward.  You can and you must. Knowing you are special unique and one of a kind with her own set of finger prints whom God has purposed to be here to play her part in Gods integral plan, look at what you do best and do it!  Don't try to be someone else its not your role to play .  You have yours to play.  Be positive, be happy and enjoy yourself, be kind good, faithful and loyal loving joyful and have patience and endure.  You will make a great listener if you are inclined to be quiet and speak only when you need to and that is a great attribute to have because by listening to people you become an observer and an understander of people.  Ask God for his wisdom and his understanding and walk with integrity dignity and confidence.  Sit with confidence, speak with confidence. If you enter a room and there is someone you know walk boldly up to the person and simply say "Hi, how are you! You look great!"  Encourage people who are down and sympathise and empathise with those who are hurting.

Choose to do what is right even if you don't feel like doing it. It makes you a person of strength.  People like being around positive people and not negative. View your life differently. Be the somebody you are meant to be and be all that you can ever be!!!!!

Answer 13

Normal people don't exist. We all have our flaws. Inferiority and superiority comparisons shouldn't be used when talking about humans.