Do Asian parents mind when girlfriend/boyfriend comes to the house?

Question

We've been close friends for years but has never brought me over to the house. His parents know of me but haven't really seen me since this year. I'm a good girl that grew up in an old fashioned, strict asian household and he's the same way. He's a shy guy who's usually discrete when it comes to his personal life towards his family. He'll bring friends over (groups) now and then but at random times. (usually just go straight to his room) He's never had a gf too and has never brought "a girl" home.

When I first met his mom, she really opened up to me and gave me hugs. She would always say to come over more often. I was the first girl he brought over (friend/non friend) who's talked w. his family. This summer, we've been spending alot of time together. We mostly hang out in his room and just watch movies. In the beginning, i made conversation w. her and his sister alot and waited until i was given permission to upstairs. Now, I'm there maybe once or twice a week and i feel like i'm intruding and being a rude asian girl. His sister said his mom's happy b/c i'm always over but my upbringing gives me the idea that I'm there "too much".

I hope i'm not annoying them...

Answer 1

Ill tell you something. If you two like each other and his parents realize that his parents wont mind. If you feel your being rude you should talk to him and explain how your feeling. And as for him meeting your parents just think maybe if he knows your parents your parents can meet him and trust him more because they know him. I hope it helps

Answer 2

If you've been friendly with each other up to this point, why not try talking with his parents? It could have been due to something your boyfriend said to her as well, so make sure to check that out too.

Has his father always been like that? or did his temperament change along with that of his wife?

This may involve a fear of you taking away her boy/his innocence -- something that must occur eventually. Ease her potential fears by showing that you're mature enough to address the problem head-on.