Do GOOD women REALLY end up with BAD men?

Question

This is based on a question from yesterday where some of the answers "claimed" good women have a hard time finding good men.

HERE IS PART OF ONE PERSON'S ANSWER:

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"I hate to say this, but Mike T isn’t as smart as he thinks he is. In my experience (meaning based on what I’ve seen) good women end up with horrible men, and good men end up with horrible women. This is the reason why the good guys and girls finish last.”. "

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Isn't that PURE c**p? The way I see it... a truely good woman would never be attracted to a bad man. A good women KNOWS she's a good women. If she is being treated poorly by her partner and she sticks around. She is NOT a good women.

Same goes for "nice guys" who end up with bad women.

Can anyone EXPLAIN what makes a woman who dates jerks a GOOD woman? Or a man who dates selfish b*tches a GOOD man?

Who you date reflects who you are. Doesn't it?

Opinions please....

Answer 1

"Who you date reflects who you are."

O.o

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I lol'd

it seems like you have some very limited definitions of "good" and "bad"

and no, who you date does not reflect who you are, but either a)what you like or b)what you think you deserve. We are capable of self definition without judging our worth as people by the others in our lives. h**l, if we all did that, then there would be no basis for comparison. imagine:

you define yourself by this person you are dating, but they define themselves by you, if both definitions are dependent on the other there is nothing real at all.

you really don't understand how people work, do you?

Answer 2

only the stupid "nice" ones end up with bad men, the clever nice ones don't stand for it and move on

Answer 3

The tough thing here is the use of the terms "good" and "nice".  Those words are generally used to apply to people who are go along, aren't ever rude or pushy, are "sweet".  In short, people who often don't stand up for themselves.  So, yes, people like that very often attract partners that end up taking advantage of them in some way.

Women, especially, seem to be prone to this because women are often taught to be subservient, compliant, polite, inoffensive.  Such women tend to end up as Rescuers; trying to Save some s*****k from himself.

Strong willed women on the other hand are often the targets of bad jokes and that's sad because those are the women who are getting what they want in their lives in most cases.

Answer 4

Who you date reflects who you are. - Agree

Isn't that PURE c**p? The way I see it... a truely good woman would never be attracted to a bad man. A good women KNOWS she's a good women. If she is being treated poorly by her partner and she sticks around. She is NOT a good women.

Same goes for "nice guys" who end up with bad women. - Agree

What you LIKE is part of who you are. - Agree

Answer 5

"end up with"?

In my experience, there are a lot of GIRLS who are drawn to the "bad boy" -- most eventually grow up. Often, women mature, develop better taste in men, and END UP with good guys.

This isn't universal, nor is it universal that nice guys always end up with biatches. It happens, but it's not universal. A lot of people focus on those cases to justify being jerks. "I don't want to 'finish last' so I'm going to be an *ssh*l*.

No civilized human being feels that way.

Answer 6

No not necessarily; good women and good men make bad choices all the time...part of the deal. Good women might become attracted to bad men and choose to ignore bad behavior because they feel a strong attraction; same with good men and bad women...mismatches are far more common than good ones.

Answer 7

Psychobable Warning:

I think people date and marry others when they have something to offer the other person. Its part of peoples narcasistic tendencies to be wanted. Two perfectly functioning, well adjusted, completely competent people hardly ever date because, quite frankly, they don't need each other for anything. A man is more likely to stay with a woman who is a bit needy because it makes him feel important, a woman is more likely to fall for and stay with a bad boy or a jerk because she thinks or feels that he needs her to guide him or set him on the right path. IF a good man and a Good woman start dating and that shiney newness of dating wears off, more often then not there is nothing holding the relationship together greater then common interests which might not be enough to make people want to work through the hard times

Answer 8

Regardless of what you say, sometimes good people wind up with bad people.  Who says that once you're married someone will decide to be stubborn instead of being sent home to their parents like beforehand.  One can hope for the best, make a major effort, and still come out on the bottom.

I love people with these simplisitc answers, who have NEVER MADE A MISTAKE.

Answer 9

Just leave some of your thinking open, please. A good person can be fooled and a good person can have reasons for putting up with a bad partner. Often, you can't deny the love you feel for a person despite the fact that they don't deserve it. Occasionally, people have changed. Not often enough, but a lot of people live in hope of that.

Do you ever know someone who is a good liar?

C. :)

Answer 10

I agree with you....nobody "ends up" with a certain type of person.

We are responsible for our life choices.

And up until the day we die , we have choices, either stay with bad person or leave.

Answer 11

yeah i agree with you.

Answer 12

It depends what you mean by 'good'. Many 'good' women are in abusive relationships. Some are dead. Others leave good lives.

Who you date does reflect who you are. Not entirely, but it does show something about you.

If I dated a sadistic perv. that would either tell you I'm:

A) Blissfully ignorant

B) Masochistic

C) I believe in the greater good in people (???)

Answer 13

No, good women don't end up with bad men. Although some people can be deceived, the partner makes out they are good when they are not. But when this is found out, they are out the door. But some peopel are vulnerable and mentally inept, victims of domestic abuse who stay for years because they 'love them' and thinks that's normal.