Do I Have A Mental illness/Disorder or Is This Normal Teenage Behaviour?

Question

I’ve been wondering about this for almost a year now and I don’t know what to do or who to talk to about it so here goes nothing.

So I’ve been wondering if what I’ve been experiancing is normal teenage behaviour or do I have mental disorder or illness? So here it goes:

I find that I’m second guessing myself a lot, more then what I think is normal. Someone will tell me to do something simple and when I’m going to do it I’ll worry about messing it up somehow and looking like a complete idiot.

I also worry constantly about what others think of me, so Im always really shy around people I don’t know because I can’t stand that they might think something bad of me. I only go out in public with friends because then I feel confident but if I go out by myself I find myself worrying about what everyone is thinking about constantly and I get slightly paranoid.

I used to (and sometimes still do) cut myself and I don’t have much of a reason why and that bothers me because I feel like an attention w***e (excuse the language) because I don’t feel that I have real issues to be depressed about. And that’s something I worry about constantly because as I mentioned before I can’t stand someone thinking something bad about me. I get urges to cut at weird times and most of the time cutting doesn’t make me feel better it makes it worse but I don’t want to stop at all.

I also experiance something that I’m not to sure what it is but say for example me and my friend get in a fight, or I’m stressing about my ex bf (wich is all the time and I think it’s a problem because we’ve been broken up for almost a full year now) I get super cold and I can’t stop shaking. This never happens out in public but it’ll happen everyonce in a while at home. Does anyone else experiance this?

My moods also vary. Sometimes I’m happy and then I can be depressed and sometimes I’m really irrated and most of the time for no good reason. Is it just hormones?

I don’t know I’m very confused. Please tell me what you think. Is this something more then just normal teenage behaviour or am I just over reacting?

Answer 1

i think u need a different way of expressing ur feelings. my best friend did that too.  until i started crying right in front of her.  it can be normal if they r like small cuts. but i think u should stop before u hurt yourself.it also doesnt just affect you, it affects ur family and friends

Answer 2

Try not to worry too much, it'll get by.

Don't let it control you, ok.

Cheer.....

Answer 3

Hi M,

You know... I think that if you went to your doctor and printed this question (only what you wrote), took it with you, showed it to him/her, I'm sure you'd find your answer. I was a teenager too, but teenagers have far more issues today to deal with than when I was a teen. I didn't have nearly these many difficulties at your age. You may have some mild form of depression, or you even may have a mental health issue. It's difficult for an unprofessional person to give you such important advice. A doctor is your best source of information - and it's confidential. I wish you the best in finding out what's happening to you. Blessings to you.

Answer 4

Hii! I think it's natural teenage behaviour.. Have you been going through tough times? Maybe you should just chill lol or get your mind off everything? Like going swimming in a hot tub or hanging around with your friends and don't think about anything of something you might be doing wrong.   Btw im 12 a ..but I'm really mature for my age like I watch 14+ shows. Just get your mind off things..put all your emotions into writing a poem or screaming out loud as hard as you can.

Answer 5

as much as i would like to help, I think you need to see a professional and not yahoo answers. I don't think cutting yourself shouldn't be taken lightly and you certainly aren't overreacting if this is how you feel. Don't be afraid to see someone who can help you.

Answer 6

you sounded just like me as a teen (and iam 48 now) until i got to the cutting part-honey you need help, you are in a depressed state and have mood swings which are not normal, sounds like you may have a imbalance of some kind but dose not sound too far off, get your parents to see your family dr, talk to him about the above symptoms, do not leave any out,  a good therapist and a low dose treatment may be all you need to realign yourself, in the meantime, get off the caffeine and extra sugar and get enough sleep at night, do you turn off your tv when you sleep, that may disturb your sleep cycle and cause your mood swings believe it or not.  

Answer 7

I felt a lot of what you are feeling when I was your age.  I was also very shy, and worried what others thought of me.  I also had a relationship end that took me over a year to finally get over completely.  The thing is that this part IS normal teenage behavior.  My problem, and others here have said it also, is that you are cutting yourself.  I also did this, and that is a sign you are getting into dangerous territory mentally, and you need to seek help for it.  This is not something to take lightly, as it can easily fester into something larger mentally and cause you to do something you may have never thought about doing before.  It isn't easy going to someone about it, believe me I know.  But not going isn't worth the risk of what you might do later.  Best wishes to you.  It does get better, but you have to take the first step.