Do I Have Right To Be MAd??

Question

I work full time and my job is 10 min a way from home, I always cook for lunch since I have 1hr lunch break. My husband always comes home but he didn’t today and said that he had a work party, I can’t believe him telling me this the very last minute and why is work party more important than me.

Answer 1

Sometimes work related problems come up and he has to attend. It's good for your husband to have face time with some of his colleagues. I used to be the exact same way, getting mad that my husband would rather go to a work party than come home and eat with me..but he's doing this for your futures.  

Answer 2

k relax.  just tell him tonight, please let me know if that comes up again so i dont make somthing for you? thank you

thats it, do not go overboard.  and come on, a work party more important that you?  thats silly. of course its not, however, he doesnt have to be strapped to you at every lunch either.  give the guy a little space.

Answer 3

No, you do not.  Grow up!

Answer 4

Trust me, you have to chose your battles. This is not a big deal. If something is going on at work, why shouldn't he be able to stay and enjoy it. I would understand if you were upset because he never showed at home and you had already cooked for him, that would not be cool. But he told you about it before you cooked. You can't be in charge of his life all the time, that's not how marriage works.

Answer 5

You are over-reacting, Yes, he should have mentioned it but Its not like this was a one time lunch date that you guys agreed to meet up for and he stood you up, it sounds like you have lunch together every day.  Just becasue he went to a work party instead of having lunch with you doesn't mean that your less important, maybe you need some therapy to deal with your insecurity issue.  Give the guy a break, Jeez!

Answer 6

No you shouldn't be mad.  

Answer 7

he probably just didnt know his job was having a party and since they were, decided to stay for it. There's nothing wrong with that.

Answer 8

I agree with a lot of people on here about already cooking dinner and all of that but if this is like an on going thing at work I would keep a eye open I mean why didn't he tell you about this like a day before I mean if it was a last min thing I just don't see it and why would they tell people the last min don't they think other people have plan's I just don't see that happening I guess where ever he works are not organized .my husband always tell's me about parties at work and some of them I get invited to so

I don't know I mean she don't have to look over his shoulder every time

but he should of at least told her ,

I think she has a right to be a little mad but don't jump to any thing yet just keep an eye out!

Goodluck

Answer 9

No you do not have the right to be mad, he forgot to tell you something get over it, and why do you think that the work party is more important are you serious maybe he wanted to do something different for lunch, maybe it's one of his co-workers birthday's or something - you've got to be kidding me that you are that petty...

Answer 10

ITS NOT THAT SERIOUS. You do have the right to be mad, but why get mad over a small thing like that. He should have a least told you last night, but maybe he forgot. The work party may not be more important than you, but maybe it was something that he could not miss.  

Answer 11

Mad about what?  Because he decided to not come home for lunch?  I work about 2 minutes away from home and I also cook for lunch.  Sometimes, I even get dinner started during my lunch break.  There are also times where I don't go home at all.  On really nice days, I grab some fast food and go hang out in the park.  What's the big deal?

You sound very needy.  Get over it.

Answer 12

Maybe he forgot or they told him at the last minute.  There was a different party every at my work every week.  Birthdays, promotions, etc.  It's very difficult to get out of work functions.  Even if it's not mandatory to attend they usually guilt you into staying.  Anyway, in the grand scheme of things it's not that big a deal.

Answer 13

Excuse me but you're way out of line. Why get bent out of shape over this. Maybe he forgot or maybe it just came up. But there's no reason to get upset over this.  

Answer 14

Pick and choose your battles. Are you having a bad day? Definitely let this one go!!!!

Answer 15

This is what you're upset about? Well, if this was a one time thing, then no I wouldn't be mad. Did he find out about the party at the last minute? Can't he have a lunch with co-workers once in a while without you feeling insecure? Answer these questions and then ask yourself again if you should be upset.

Answer 16

If you see him every day then whats wrong if he does something else with out you? It is good to let your man do things on his own or with others,, other wise you make him feel trapped. It has NOTHING to do with you not being important to him .I feel you need to let it go he did nothing wrong.

Answer 17

yeah, of course you do. he should of had the courtesy to call you ahead of time. you are doing a wonderful thing by cooking at lunch for him. this party isn't a last minute thing, so he knew about it early on. its not that its more important than you, really, he's a man, they were probably eating something that sounded good to him. guys think with their di** or their tummy's. there's no brain involved, that's why us women are always so damned angry at them!  

Answer 18

It would've been appropriate for him to have given you more notice, if he had gotten more notice (you didn't say how long he knew about the party)....but why is it an issue that he'd like to attend a work party? He sees you every day for lunch, right? So what's the issue? It should be perfectly fine that occasionally either of you might make other plans....you're married, you see each other at other times of day also. It's not like missing a lunch together is your only opportunity to see each other for the week.

Courtesy dictates he should've told you as soon as he was aware, so you wouldn't go out of your way to prepare lunch for him if he wasn't going to have lunch with you...the fact that he wanted to do something else at lunch for once, should be a non-issue.

Answer 19

Grow up.  

Answer 20

Um.. I'd be mildly irritated if he told me after lunch had already been cooked and waiting.. But otherwise, who cares?  He can have lunch with his coworkers if he wants, can't he?  I only draw the line of having lunch alone with a female coworker.  

He is not saying a work party is more important than you, though.  It's not like he's made a habit of it.

Answer 21

If you always cook lunch anyway, and this one time your husband had an ofc party instead, no biggie. Let it be or it will turn into a big magilla for no reason and actually, you have no reason to be mad since this is a one time thing and you have to cook anyway. "Cook" lunch? LOL, I just have a sandwich or a salad, but whatever. Usually people say "make" lunch.

Answer 22

i think that you have a right to be mad, you are married to him he should be telling you these things.