Do I call my new Mother-in-Law "mom"?She hasn't asked me to.?

Question

I just got married 2 weeks ago.We have been together for 5 yrs. I have always address his mother by her first name. She has not asked me to call her mom. Do I continue addressing her by her first name now that we are married? Thanks

Answer 1

You've known her for 5 years, and you have never called her mom. So why start now. I guess when she is comfortable with you that may change

Answer 2

You don't need to, you can continue calling her by her name.  Don't change anything that's not broken.

Answer 3

I would continue to call her by her first name unless she request otherwise. Perhaps when you introduce her to new friends, it would be OK to call her your "MOM"! But you may want to discuss this with her first. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes.  Only call her something different if she asks.  I would hate it if one of my kid's boyfriends or spouses called me Mom.  I'm not their mom.

Answer 5

always address people as they've invited you to. If she introduced herself by her first name when you guys first met, continue that. Don't call her mom unless you are invited to.

Answer 6

AJ, my husband had an issue calling my mom mom and he really liked her. It took her to get cancer for him to start calling her mom. I do not call my mother in law mom because she isn't my mom. We are both good with that. It is entirely up to you what you want to do. Would you feel comfortable calling her mom? That is what you need to ask yourself. Or, maybe you could call her mom once and see if you get a reading from her whether she likes it or not

Answer 7

First name sounds fine. If you really think of her as your mother maybe think of calling her "mom", but that really isn't the norm in most cases. First name is certainly more appropriate.  

Answer 8

Never call anyone mom unless they are your mother.  Or unless they ask and you are really comfortable with it.  I would consider calling my MIL mom if she were a really wonderful person, and my real mother was deceased.

Answer 9

You can call her whatever you feel like. I can't imagine someone TELLING you to cal them something. My BIL (husband's sister's husband) calls her parents Mom and Dad. I call them by their first names. No one seems to care one way or another.

What's funny though, is that my husband calls my mom, "Mom." But, he had been doing that long before we even dated. We met in high school, and my mom was always one of the more beloved parents. Everyone called her mom because she told them, "I've got 4 kids yelling mom at me all day, I'm not sure I'd remember to respond to my own name anymore." But, he calls my Dad by his first name. Life is funny sometimes:)

Answer 10

That depends on your comfort level with calling her "mom".  There is nothing wrong with still calling her by her 1st name, especially since she hasn't asked you to address her differently.  I have been married for 2 years, and still address my MIL by her 1st name.  I would feel ackward calling her mom.

Answer 11

I have been married for 2 months and I still call my mother-in-law by her 1st name. I was with my husband for 3 years before we got married. His mother and I aren't very close so I still call her by her first name. And if she asks you to you don't have to. If you feel comfortable calling her mom then do it. But if you don't then politely say thank you for the gesture but I would prefer to call you by your first name. At this point I don't think I could call my mother-in-law mom. We aren't close and it wouldn't feel right.

Answer 12

well I just after almost 6 years of being married have started to call my MIL mom and not very often do I but she is ok with it and so am I so I guess its up to you and how she reacts to you doing it

you should just try it call her and say mom I am at the store do you need anything? maybe she will be like sure or she be like who is this then you will know