Do I give a gift for a casual wedding when its the 2nd marriage 4 both parties?

Question

The ceremony is in a chapel in a forest preserve. Only a maid of honor & best man. No reception. Dinner at a casual/nicer Italian restaurant. After dinner, she wants to go play that bean bag game at a bar. She told her maid of honor she didnt expect gifts. But I heard it from the maid of honor. They already live together in a house that they have everything they need. I feel if I just brought a card it would be tacky but I really have no spare money to give them a check or a gift. We are not really friends, more like acquaintances. We never hang out, only talk on myspace. I know her through the maid of honor. She really doesnt have many friends which is why I suspect I was invited. She is having another ceremony in Mexico in September. Her maid of honor doesnt even want to give her a gift for all the same reasons. (The maid of honor is my best friend) Suggestions?

Answer 1

You could contact the Bride to be and see if she's registered anywhere, she'll let you know then if she expects gifts or not. That should make things a little easier for you. If you still feel like it's appropriate but your low on cash, maybe you could make them something. I'm sure there's something you could craft together that the couple would enjoy. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

As much as she may say she doesn't want gifts, I'm sure she actually does.  You can find a nice, inexpensive vase, picture frame, etc to give them.    Check out someplace like Home Goods, Marshall's or even TJ Maxx.  They have decent home items like that, that are generally not too expensive.

Answer 3

I would by them a gift,its rude not to.

Answer 4

It is not necessary to give a gift in this instance. A card of well wishes would be nice.

Answer 5

We just bought the most beautiful crystal candlesticks for only $40 for a couple, and the stores even had gorgeous $20 ones. Tall, modern and beautiful.

Get something small like that or even a pretty photo album.

All the best.

Answer 6

I think a card would be fine under the circumstances.

Answer 7

OK.....do you mean that she has invited people to her wedding AND a restaurant, but the guests need to pay for their own meal??  If I understand from your last few sentences, that is what it sounds like.

Geez.....very rude.  I don't know if I would even go.  It certainly doesn't sound like you are very close to this girl.  IF, and that is IF you want to go, I would simply give her a card.  

I have never heard of inviting someone to a dinner reception and, yes, it is a reception even though it's at a restaurant, and then making them pay.  Obviously, the bride and groom think they can get away with not paying for their guests under the "disguise"

of "we are not having a reception, but going to a restaurant instead."  That is c**p.  

It IS a reception.

Anyway, I would simply give them a congratulations card and nothing else.

Answer 8

I would give a gift, try this website. these are great gift.

http://www.chimesofyourlife.com/

This company personalized wind chimes, you can say

anything, show your love, blessings, whatever. They

even have an inscription page if you cant think of

anything to say.

Great selection of chime colors,sizes, and different wind sail shapes.

Answer 9

A card should be all in this instance.  Good luck!

Answer 10

You could get away with giving them a nice card.  Instead of just signing your name on it, I'd write a nice, heartfelt message of congratulations.