Do I give up or keep trying?

Question

Ok so for a while this guy and I liked each other. We didn't admit it to each other but we hung out talked and he slept over all the time. I really liked him and it took me a really long time to let my walls fall down with him because of past relationships but I did with him. I really liked him we went through our ups and downs. But finally we had a huge fight because I let other people tell me lies about this guy and I believed them. We took a week where we didnt talk and now he told me he messed around with another girl and he doesn't want to try anymore maybe we should just be friends. But we were suppose to go camping but he said he couldn't come because its hard for us to be friends. I really like him and I really care for him. Everyone keeps telling me to give up on him but i want the opinion of someone else who hasn't been involved in it all along. Both of us came into the relationship which pretty much lasted 7 months with a lot of emotional baggage! And now it's messed up...I'm really sad about it I don't cry over guys but I cried over him. He doesn't want to try to work things out between us because he doesn't think it will work because people don't change and I will always listen to other people. What do I do....try even though he is so negative about it and is still probably messing around with this other girl or just give up now and try to get over the heart ache before it gets worst? If I was to give up on him how to do I get over him if everything reminds me of him?

Answer 1

Let it go. I don't know how old you are, but if you live to be 100, you'll cry over more than a mere man and you'll surely find that out of your lifespan, 7 months isn't very long at all. You are your own best friend and the only you there is. Love yourself, take care of yourself, and respect yourself.  There's better out there, just keep your eyes and ears open.

Answer 2

I would think the best thing to do is to let it go...Life always goes on and you really dont have control over anyone elses feelings, actions, or emotions. No people don't CHANGE but they do mature and maturing means learning from your mistakes. I think just from your version that this guys not the one, he may have been your FIRST LOVE but hes not ready for you... Move on, it will be hard but how strong are you?? 17 years ago I was with my first boyfriend, first love. He broke my heart and we went our seperate ways. I was in a relationship for 12 years and it was almost perfect. One little thing just pushed me over the edge to walk out on that long relationship. But by doing that I ended up with my FIRST LOVE again. We will be getting married in a week!

Good luck.

Answer 3

You need to be your own person and stop listening to other people. You have to think about if you want this guy, is he moral, has good character, treats you will, is a good guy, etc. What are the pros and cons of your relationship. Are you happy with him? Ask a good friend to critique your relationship honestly, but make sure you let her know that you want an honest opinion and you won't get mad at her. And, don't get mad at her. Good luck

Answer 4

LEAVE HIM he obviously didnt feel bad if all he said after foolingaround with a girl was that you should be friends. he shouldve been apologizing