Do I have a reason to be annoyed and frustrated with my Mother? DETAILS INCLUDED!

Question

My family and I were eating dinner. ( my mom, sister and myself. ) I had ate earlier at the mall and was not hungry for dinner. I told my mom I would eat later. she told me I should eat a little bit, so I said fine.

As a joke( and I realize now it wasn't funny) I said: "I feel like I am anorexic or something, you two have more food then me"

Now don't get me wrong, I always eat right, and I love to eat.

I could NEVER see myself being anorexic, and I am aware it is a mental disease with physical and mental side effects.

My mom then looked at me and said YOU BETTER NOT BE ANOREXIC, AND YOU BETTER NOT BE BECOMING ANOREXIC. This really hurt my feelings.. because I felt she was accusing me, and I am not anorexic. Then my sister said(who is 10) "YEAH, you better not be."

I have been through A LOT. My friends who know about my past are like "wow, how can you even hold yourself together".

I AM ONLY 14.

I know that she didn't mean any harm( my mom) but I am quite offended.

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

she was just looking out for your health..stop being so sensitive

Answer 2

your best bet when anyone offends you or hurts your feelings is to be honest and talk to that person just leave your anger out it will only escalate the situation and you don't want that i would approach your mom when she is alone or tell her you need to speak in private and relate to her what your feeling and all and its ok to show some and i mean very little but some resentment to her for saying what she said it will make her feel more that you are not anorexic and thats good and she may have said it as a way of getting back at you she may have took what you said the wrong way as in:ya'll eat like pigs instead of a meaningless joke either way talking will solv almost all family problems!!

Answer 3

Really dont worry about this. Judging by the answer you gave to my question. you can take up for yourself. thank you

Answer 4

Your mother had a knee-jerk reaction and clearly did NOT think out her response.  Your sister simply mimicked her.  Politely excuse yourself and walk away should this topic come up again.  Kid or not, you are NOT obligated to respond to such thoughtless remarks.  Shame on your mom.  She needs to hone her parenting/communication skills.

Answer 5

no dude you shouldnt she is just worried about you,but your sister i would be mad at her for being smart like that :P

Answer 6

You say something stupid and NOT FUNNY and your mother reacts and now you're annoyed with her?  Try thinking before you speak if you don't want any c**p from your mother.  You'd probably be mad at her if she didn't say anything about your remark either.

Answer 7

well yeah your mom shouldnt have freak out like that!

and i mean if she was worried you were she could have at least asked in a calm voice if you were.

but you have to concided the fact that theres alot of girls like that today and that a  mom might just get worried with out nodicing,

im 14 to :]

Answer 8

Mommies overact, trust me; I do it too. We can either 1) Blame media for over exhausting that girls in your age bracket who are in therapy become anorexic, etc. or 2) let your mom come to her senses that you are not.

If she blows up that easily over spilled milk, I would understand why you need therapy. Honestly, doesn't sound like you are the only one going. Everyone gets tense and stressed, but jeez. Don't think anything of it. Tell yourself how beautiful you are :)

Answer 9

If this is the biggest family problem you have, then you are a very, very lucky girl. Lighten up.