Do I have a right as my son's parent not to let my ex boyfriends parents see my son?

Question

Thursday my ex boyfriends mother chose to tell me that I was shaking my baby when I bounce him a little bit on my knee(which I do because the movement helps him calm down). We ended up in an argument because she said that I needed to stop because I was abusing him. I told her at that time that I was not going to be coming back to her house and she said that was fine but I should not keep her grandson away from her. I agreed at that point. I went for a walk to calm my self down and told my exes mom that I will be right back. Well I went home for a second because I don't live that far from my exes parents house. I called my ex to see where he was at and found out he was at his parents house. All of a sudden my exes mom got on the phone and told me that if I go to her house to pick up my son that she would call the police and have me arrested. I called the pollice to make sure that she could not do that and then called her and told her I was coming to pick up my son. While I was on my way to pick up my son my ex's mother called CPS on me and told them that I was shaking my baby. Now I am really mad and I don't want my son to go see his grandparents until they aapologizeto me for what they did. Lying to CPS.

Answer 1

I think you have the right to not let them see your son, when your son is in your custody They do not have rights towards the baby.

Answer 2

You are treading on a thin line here.  Even if they apologize they are going to s***w you again.  Be very careful how and if you let them into that kid's life.  If the court doesn't say you have to let them see the kid, then don't let them see the kid.  You work with the baby's daddy only and let there be no communication with them for awhile.  You are opening yourself up for heavy disaster if you trust them again, they've already shown you what they are made of.

Answer 3

you need a lawyer now.rights very by state  

Answer 4

what she did was very wrong.  however there is a thing called grandparents rights and if you choose not to let your child see them they can bring it to court.  everybody should just try to get along.

Answer 5

Calling CPS is a drastic move and should not be done for petty disagreements.  Like you, I would be fuming mad!  However, if the baby's father takes your child to his mother's house I'm not sure what you can do about it.  Perhaps you should consult an attorney. Laws vary state to state and you may have legal authority to ban his mother from access to your child, since she essentially attempted to keep you from them.  On the other hand.....is it possible, however remotely, that she is right?  I mean, unless this woman is a complete witch, it sounds like she was genuinely concerned about the welfare of the baby.  Is she your child's blood grandmother?  Some states will grant court ordered visitation for the grandparents.  Maybe...for the sake of peace within the family...you two could agree to make a visit to the pediatrician TOGETHER to demonstrate the bouncing.....and get a doctor's opinion on the matter.  

Answer 6

Your ex's parents do not have any rights to the kid at all. It sounds like a bid to take the kid outright.

Your ex has what visitation/custody that you have assigned through the courts, and you should be collecting child support. At this point I would not let him take the kid off premises, simply because he may wind up in their clutches. Consider changing the visitation privileges to "supervised only" there at the court house for this reason alone.

You need to play "keep away" from the ex's parents... use the answering machine to screen their calls, and use the door peeper-hole to screen visits. You may have to consider filing harassment charges with the police, and possibly a restraining order.

Answer 7

Nobody here can say if she was in the wrong or not.

I have seen parents do thing that they genuinely thought was right but it was wrong.Shaking a baby in any motion is not healthy..I doubt she would have overreacted if it was a simple rocking motion.

Your son should be allowed to see his grandparents unless they are completely wack.

As grandparents they can go to court and fight for grandparents rights.Look it up.The best thing to do is resolve this issue with them personally because it is not healthy.

What does your ex say about it?

Answer 8

you definatly have the right get a lawyer but if you decide not to let his grandaprents see him...in court bring up what she did....that is very irresponsible...they may have rights but you can take them away just as easy as they can get them.