My wife and I are fighting again and I am once again asking the Y!A community to help me calibrate my understanding of the situation.
On Saturday morning my family of six was making preparations to leave for an all-day family outing that we'd been planning for weeks. The children had saved their allowance to pay for it so it was a big deal. We'd had a very busy summer and the whole point of this event was for us to do something together as a family because our summer has been lacking in such events (for all six of us).
1. The event was 30 minutes away and the place opens at 11 so we planned to leave at 10:30.
2. My wife has a habit of oversleeping, but I have never left her behind for a family event. I have always either woken her, or waited for her and left late so we could all stay together. After all it's a family event.
3. My wife comes down from the bedroom (for the first time that morning) at 10:20 showered and dressed, but hasn't had breakfast nor packed her lunch.
4. I said, "Good morning. I didn't know you were up."
5. My 9-yr old son said, "Better hurry up Mom, we're leaving in 10 minutes" I said nothing about her being behind schedule because I didn't want to offend her.
6. She asks me, "Were you planning on leaving without me?"
I think it would have been horrible of me to leave without her. If I'd done so, she'd have been pissed and rightly so. I was insulted that she could consider me to be capable of treating her so badly and I told her, "I am insulted by your question." She thinks it's a perfectly reasonable question to ask considering the circumstances and that I'm overreacting.
Did I have a right to be insulted by this question?
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