Do I have the right? Do they?

Question

So I want to lose weight (I'm almost thirteen and 119 pounds) I want to weigh 108. My whole family knows that.

I just ate dinner and spit out some chicken in the toilet because there was icky fat on it. Eww! I later got on the computer, and my little sister comes up to me and asks if I threw up. Then my mom asks if I threw up. No, I did not, and I told them that. And they sigh in relief.

Now I'm starting to get annoyed. They think I'm bulimic. Do I have the right to be kind of offended? And kind of ticked?

Then I mutter "and I needed to wash my hands, too" and my mom freaks out and asks what I said. I take a breathe (I barely talk, so it takes me a while to muster my voice to average volume) and my moms yells at me "WHAT did you say!?" I repeat my answer. And she sighs in relief again and walks away. I can hear her talking to my older siblings about me.

Now I feel really hurt. I'm disappointed in them. They can't trust me to take care of myself. What do I do? I feel kind of lost...

Sorry, it's kind of a vent, but I need to know if these feelings are normal. Thanks in advance!

Answer 1

To be honest with you, by the way you just freaked out just now over one incident, I would be worried about your behavior, too, if I were the rest of your family.  You are obviously on edge a lot.

Answer 2

it is normal... just talk to them.. simple as that..

p.s don't throw up.. if you don't like the food.. don't eat it.. common sense

Answer 3

if you dont like something dont eat it  its a waste of food and money  if you want to lose weight just do it but keep it to yourself  eat lite but right  you seem a little dramatic but you are young so minor problems seem major at this age  take it easy  dont be so serious  you will have plenty of things to be serious about when you get 18 and move out  right now enjoy your youth

Answer 4

no u shouldnt be offeneded at all and spitting out chicken? if you swalloed it already you are BULIMIC sorry to say but you already need help because its gonna get worse and worse trust me!! its starts lil then it gets big! why would you wanna lose weight thats perfect weight other girls would wanna be your weight just go to your conselor they just want whats best for you listen to them they kno better they are here to teach you thats why they  are your parents and if you want to lose weight and eat run thats all you have to do!

Answer 5

Being 13 you are going to get annoyed at a lot. However, your parents have a right to be concerned. You are their responsibility until you are old enough to move out and live on your own. I am the parent of an anorexic daughter and I can tell you that it gets annoying. The commercials are designed to make you feel bad about yourself. Television creates a distorted image of what perfection is. (most women are touched up) Girls are getting more and more pressure to become thin. Sadly this leads to anorexia. No one really wakes up and says I am anorexic as of now. It starts with a desire to loose weight and suddenly even when you are tiny, you still see yourself as fat. Your body is shutting down and you are dying but you still can't see that you are too thin and you still are not happy with your weight. 108lbs is too thin.

Even now that she is back to a healthy weight of 114 lbs, she is a pain in the A$$ when we want to go out to eat. She can never find anything and she makes everyone else uncomfortable because she is so picky about what she will eat. We can never just enjoy a meal because she sits there with a salad she picks at when we are trying to enjoy our meals. It makes everyone uncomfortable and the entire conversation is geared at trying to find something she will eat because we know she needs to.

Anorexia and bulimia are best treated when a person is young so if your parents are worried, be glad that they love you. If it isn't stopped at the beginning the ability to recover goes down dramatically and premature death is almost the only outcome.

Answer 6

I can understand you feeling annoyed at your family, but you must also see it from their point of view. They must be worried about you wanting to lose the weight and then you going to the bathroom to spit out the chicken. Of course they will jump to conclusions thinking you were throwing up. So in future, instead of spitting it out, just cut of the bits you don't like. Talk to your family about how you feel, if they don't know, then they can't see your point of view either. Communication is the key.

Answer 7

It's all normal.  Your sister was being a typical tattling sibling, your parents were being typical concerned parents, and sounds like you have typical middle-child angst.

Just let it blow over, and next time spit your food out in the kitchen trash for all to see.

As far as weight loss goes, worry less about the amount of food you eat.  Eat healthy, but more importantly, get some exercise.

Answer 8

My family does it to me too, but I don't really care..Words don't hurt me, but when my family member really tick me off. I go up to them and I say "  why the h**l are you guys talking about me " and I just say the bad things about each of my family members. But if I'm like a really fat person and I'm a couch potato I wouldn't talk about anybody else. I would get up and exercise because you can get diabetes.

Answer 9

Your feelings are completely normal.

When you said that you wanted to lose weight, and then "threw up" (even though u just spit it out) it worried your family. They probably think that you are trying to be bulimic.

Instead of spitting your chicken out, just cut off the pieces of fat. That's what I do.

I'm 150 and I wanna be 110. I'm 13 too.

I hope I helped.

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