Do I have the right to be upset at her??

Question

My best friend hardly invites me anywhere with her, and im the one who always calls her to ask to hangout. And she went to this party over the weekend to this guys house and i dont really like him cause he just seems rude but i love party's just to hangout and talk to people. And she told me she went to a party over the weekend and i said "Ok..why didn't you ask me to come?" and shes like "I dont know, i thought you didn't like him?" and that has nothing to do with it lol i thought that was pretty dumb to say cause just because i dont like him, i dont have to talk to him. What's done is done but i dont want to start an argument about it but from now on should i just stop calling her to hangout? I want her to come up with it on her own.

Answer 1

I dont think you guys are really 'best friends'.. if you were then the eagerness to spend time together would be mutual. She clearly doenst think of you as much as you think of her so if I were you I would just protect myself by distancing myself from her so you dont end up getting hurt everytime she blows you off. Sorry.  

Answer 2

Either she's spaced out, or she's outgrown you in her mind.  I know, best friends 4 ever and all that.  People go separate ways all the time for all kinds of reasons.  Can't let friends dictate your life and she's obviously not letting you dictate hers.

Answer 3

maybe she's a little insecure with having you around. You're probably really cute and would take her spot light away. Otherwise you would get invited. I would try to make my own friends and start my own circle. Don't dwell on it.  

Answer 4

You have the right to be a LITTLE upset with her. Have you talked to her about this? Has it always been like this? If you haven't talked to her about the subject, I suggest you do it. She's the only person who is going to be able to give you any kind of answer - not the people who are going to respond on Yahoo.

As to the party: I think she did the right thing by not inviting you. The party was at the house of the person you dislike. Why on earth should she invite you to come to the house of someone you don't like? Not to mention, it's rude beyond belief to invite someone to a party if they hate you and you are hosting the party. Her reasoning on not inviting you to that party is sound and you have no ground to fuss about her not doing it. You not liking him has EVERYTHING to do with why she didn't invite you.  Very legitimate.

Answer 5

It sounds to me like you two are growing apart.  It's sad, because it happened to me in high school with two different people.  You start getting different interests, different outlooks, and you start going your own separate ways.  I would say seize this opportunity to tell her that you really want to hang out with her.  If she gives you some excuse, just know that you did your part to keep the friendship going.  If she doesn't value the friendship, it will show in time.  Good luck!