Do I have to go to a wedding when I am 36 weeks pregnant?

Question

There are two family weddings in November, we live 1200kms away so we had no intention of actually going to them. Anyway I have to travel to the city to have my baby, so I booked the plane tickets for the latest time I can travel (22nd November - Im due 22nd December) and then find out that one of the weddings is on the 23rd november. Now I have my sis-in-law asking me why im not going to the wedding (its not her wedding, its my partners cousins wedding). Do you think its a good enough excuse that I will be 36 weeks pregnant and have just flown into town the night before?

Answer 1

I wouldn't go.no...I wouldn't bother myself for my partners cousins

that's what i think

Answer 2

Weather you go or not is entirely up to you really but having things planned for the last month of your pregnancy will help the time go faster so do think about it.  What does your partner think as it is his cousin.

Answer 3

I wouldn't go you definatley don't need the added stress of traveling at 36 weeks. you still can send a gift and a best wishes/apology note for not being there im sure your partners cousin would appreciate that

Answer 4

Please don't take a plane when you're 36 weeks pregnant. It's not good. Airlines probably won't allow you, anyway, trust me.

Answer 5

You NEVER have to go to a wedding, unless you've committed to participate in it as an attendant. The couple will understand.

Answer 6

If you don't want to go, then don't go. No excuse is necessary.

Answer 7

it is really up to you

Answer 8

It doesn't matter if you are gong to be at the city at the time. You are 36 weeks along, just got off a flight, with a very possibly cranky toddler, ankles swollen, exhausted  and very uncomfortable, and unless they are going to provide you with a sitter, a bed to lay down in, and sign that says "PLEASE DON'T TOUCH THE BELLY!!!", you are in no way obligated to go, nor should you feel guilty about not going.

Answer 9

Stay home...put your feet up...relax...(as much as you can with a 2 year old) you'll be very, very busy soon :)  Weddings can be a strain to attend even if you aren't pregnant!  Don't risk your health or your baby's health.  Send a very nice note or call the bride and explain that you're not comfortable with flying right now...send a lovely gift and relax... Best wishes!

Answer 10

you dont have to go if you dont feel like it just say your going to say no as you dont no how your going to feel its up to you hun  

Answer 11

You know, you should really talk to your doctor about this. You already have a child and I will tell you that on my second child was early and was in labor for one hour. If your doctor says you dont have anything to worry about, then the choice is yours whether you want to go or not.

Answer 12

ahahah

i think it's ok..

but what about your partner???

Answer 13

god bless you, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do.  so you're saying you're traveling to the city where this wedding is, to spend a month before your due date?  did you RSVP to this wedding already?  if you told them you're going, then you have to go.  but if you haven't responded to the invite yet, just tell them you can't make it.  since you're traveling with your toddler and you have a lot of preparation for your new baby, the bride should understand.

Answer 14

no you dont have to go..... the people who are getting married should understand....

think of yourself and the baby... ask them for a video so you can watch the wedding later....

Answer 15

Really, its completely up to you and how you feel.  If you feel up to it, then great.  If not, then they should understand.

I had 3 pregnant friends attend my wedding last month.  2 of them are only due Sept/Oct.  But the other one was almost a week overdue.  She actually started getting contraction during the reception and left early to go home.  Had she not come, I would have totally understood.  

You need to do whatever is best for you and the baby, and your toddler.

Answer 16

you don't have to do ANYTHING while you're 36 weeks pregnant.

Answer 17

Good heavens. If they can't understand that you need to look after yourself and your imminent new baby first, then they're probably not the sort of people to whose wedding you really need to be going, are they? But they probably aren't so horrible as that. Send them a nice card with best wishes for their happy marriage, and keep yourself healthy and well rested. I'm sure they would appreciate that more than a tired and uncomfortable you straining yourself.