Do I have to use "here comes the bride" when I get married?

Question

I don't want to use that music when i come down the aisle. What are some not-so-common alternatives? My wedding is on a beach and I would prefer something instrumental.

Answer 1

No I am getting married in oct. and we are using a song by the grateful dead it is called If I had the world to give. It is slow and a very pretty song. There is also a song by van morrison called someone like you it is going to be played just before the song i come down the isle to. It is your day so make it your day with your own touches.

Answer 2

Absolutely not. There's no way in h**l I'm having it =P

We're having our friend play a something pretty on the acoustic guitar, that my darling and I have composed (we're musos).

Then at the reception we're having Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Nick Cave, INXS and all sorts of rock songs as first dance, cake cutting, etc.

Answer 3

No, you don't have to.

It would be cool if you got somebody

to play a calm, soft song with an acoustic

guitar, with or without singing.

Answer 4

Absolutely not.  You can use whatever song or piece of music you like.  I used a piece called Trumpet Voluntary.  It's what Queen Elizabeth enters with.  It's very popular with brides now and is usually pretty easy to find on bridal CD's.  If you want to listen to it, here's a link for it:

Answer 5

No you dont I had a saxophone playing while i walked down it was very romantic.

Answer 6

You can use any song you want.  My cousin used The Rose, instrumental.  I thought it was pretty.  

My name is Samantha too.

Enjoy your wedding.

Answer 7

No. I've never heard that played at a wedding before. Trumpet Voluntary is the usual these days.

Answer 8

If your family is severly traditional then the church roof will collapse and everyone will have their left hand sticking out of the grave so everyone will know you didn't us THE SONG.

If your catholic and don't use it their butts will stick up out of the grave so other catholics can kick them.

Just kidding; you can use any song you want to.I'll bet they'd flip if you played Lynnard Skynnard's "Gimme back my bullets", or Patsy Cline's "Crazy".

Answer 9

Of course you don't. Wagner (who composed it) was apparently an anti-Semite, so it's not used as often know especially at Jewish weddings.

Answer 10

Definitely not.

"Traditional" songs didn't reflect me or my husband's taste.

So I walked down to Sting's "Fields of Gold" played on acoustic guitar.

Most rock, pop and country songs can be turned into beautiful instrumentals.  

Think of songs that are special to you and your fiance.  Is there something in particular that will really capture the moment when you're moving down the aisle towards him?  Or a song that makes you think of him or vice versa?  Talk to your musician and see what else they have in their repetoire besides the "common wedding songs".  Good luck!

Answer 11

No, you don't have to conform!

If you and your fiance have spoken about it and are both completely open to other options, then why not?  It is a day special for the both of you and you should work it so it stays that way.

That being said, I would like to leave you with my suggestion - Debussy by the Sea.  It is a wonderful, romantic CD that has some great instrumentals that I think would work perfectly for your day!

Answer 12

of course not. use whatever song you want. it's your wedding after all.

Answer 13

Weddings are becoming more and more less traditional.  It's your big day.  Choose whatever you want.  Perhaps something that is special to you.  Talk it over with the people involved.  Congrats.

Answer 14

No, you don't have to use it.  I was dead-set against it the moment I learned that it was composed by Wagner (therefore giving it anti-Semitic undertones-- not cool for my partly-Semitic family!).

I am using Air on G String by Bach, done by a solo violinist.  It's beautiful.  The other songs my violinist suggested before I chose that one were "Trumpet Voluntary," "Canon" by Pachelbel, "Trumpet Tune" by Purcell and "Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring" by Bach.

Good luck!

Answer 15

nope, one of my sisters got married on the beach. and one of their friends played the guitar in her wedding.

Answer 16

you can use anything

pachabels cannon d

any instumental song you like

symphonic and classical

Answer 17

Nope not at all! It is your day and your wedding, you do what you want. You can actually get the instrumental versions to any slow songs that you really care for. Just a thought.

Answer 18

I feel the same way, I want something that isn't as expected and traditional.  My fiance is a beautiful musician, so he is going to be writing a processional just for me!  I think that's so romantic.  I'm a lucky girl!

You can use anything you want, that way it is more personal and reflects you and your fiance and your relationship.

Answer 19

Absolutely not, you can have what you like. I'm a musician and I play at weddings and I've hardly ever had to play 'Here comes the bride.' There are so many other really good pieces to walk down the aisle to.

I've just set up my own music agency business that sends out musicians to play at weddings and on it I have music ideas for the ceremony, please feel free to have a browse, www.musicalconnections.org.uk

Congratulations!

Answer 20

yes, its a rule, you must conform

Answer 21

No You Don't I Just Got Home From Cancun And IThere Was A Wedding Everday And The Song From 51st Dates With The Ukalele At The End It Is Beautiful. And Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!