Do I invite her to my wedding?

Question

I had a friend since 1st grade. We are grown up now. She got married to my ex boyfriend's brother a year ago. (I dated my ex for 5yrs and we were real close with his bro and my friend. I broke up with him and we are still friendly and can hold a conversation and wish each other the best. I loved his parents too. We were young and I was afraid off getting close to settling down and I just wasn't happy.) She invited me to her wedding. When I was there she acted so fake to my face, like she was better than me. We didn't take any pictures together and I felt completly out of place. Her family which my parents and I always got along great with said like 2 words to us the entire time. My dad works with my ex's father (her husband's father too), so they will know if I'm having a wedding. I don't want come off as being rude. She texts me every once in a while to say we should get together. I always say back, let me know when is good for you and I'll be there. She says ok and she never makes the attempt. Deep down I am hurt and I don't even want to make an attempt. I think if we do meet up it's because she wants to be nosey and tell my ex about my life. She hasn't even met my fiance.

Answer 1

Hello Love

Just because she invited you to hers doesnt mean you have to return the favour. If she was rude to you then you dont have to invite her anywhere. If you are worried that she is going to find out that you had a wedding and didnt invite her then who cares? This is your big day, dont let anyone ruin it. If you dont want to invite her because you dont feel close to her anymore then dont, it is your right as a human and as the bride to be to only invite people who arent fake and who treat you with respect. What can she do if you dont invite her?  

Answer 2

It's your wedding and your life. Looks like  you all arent really that close and she's on her way out of your life anyway.

Answer 3

Invite who you really want there and no one else!  that's the best rule to follow!  Its not about whats right but whats right for you!  

Answer 4

You are not required to invite someone to your wedding just because they invited you to theirs.

Answer 5

A question for you is - how would you have felt if she hadn't invited you to her wedding?

You'll see when you're at your own wedding it's hard to talk everyone and to keep everything straight. I know I blew people off at my wedding without meaning to at all. (I just got married in Oct).

I would try to talk to her about the wedding and see if that fakeness is still there. Remember - you end up having to talk to ALOT of people at a wedding and it might come off a little fakey when it's not. As for the parents - I'm sure they were stressed too - but it's not as excusable as the bride.

If you really consider her a friend I would give her the benefit of the doubt and try talking to her to figure out what's going on before excluding her.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Your wedding...you get to do what you want!  It doesn't sound like you're close anymore.  

Answer 7

it will be polite to invite her since she invited you. you need to sit down one-on-one and tell her how you feel. she doesn't know how you feel, she probably think that you have been acting funny towards her. when you are at a wedding( which you will see at your own), you can't talk to everyone. you are focused and she could have had other stuff on her mind. HEY it was her day so she lived it up. You will have your day so you will live it up. when your weddings comes just make sure you dont treat her like she treated you. CONGRATS AND GOD BLESS!!!

Answer 8

If you don't want her to come, than don't let her. Who cares if she gets mad at the end, just follow your heart. For me, I wouldn't because she sounds kind of mean in a way. She seems that she dosn't like you that much.

Answer 9

block her outta ur life homie

Answer 10

Did you read your question after you posted? It seems fairly clear and obvious. You invite people to your wedding that 1. are closely related, 2. are very close to your parents, 3. you socialize with a lot and like a lot. Period. Just because she invited you to her wedding is not a valid reason. Ask yourself : do I want this girl in my life 5 years from now when we're both young moms? If the answer is YES, then invite her. If the asnwer is "NO, Can't see us together even next year", the don't.

Answer 11

You call her a friend, I dont think so. No I wouldnt invite her and I wouldnt attend anything she invited me to. Why be fake? I hate people like that. If I dont like a person I dont associate with them.