Do I jump ship or sail off into the sunset?

Question

I'm currently in a relationship headed toward the 6 yr. mark. We have a house and a baby together but still aren't married. I do love him but not sure when and even if he will ask me to marry him. Our financial status is headed for tough times. He's a carpenter and he will most likely get laid off in the winter. I'm barely making ends meet now. Can't qualify for public aid cause I make too much. This seems to be a vicious cycle. I don't know when things will get better. I come from a middle class family and that's all I want. I just want to live comfortably and be able to provide for my daughter in a comfortable way, not have to hold off until the next pay check to buy her something. There's no room to save either. We literally spend every last penny to stay afloat. Unfortunately, we will be sinking soon especially w/ winter around the corner. I know that when you are married, your suppose to be there thick and thin but we aren't married. Do I want to stick it out or are there other men out there that will be able to support my daughter and I in a more comfortable lifestyle? Is the grass greener on the other side?

Answer 1

Hey there, tough position, I think the fact you are questioning the future says a lot about where you are at in your relationship with your partner if you are prepared to work on it you will make it work but it sounds to me like you are ready to move on. As far as the finance is concerned it is probably just a reason to question your relationship when it is really the relationship that is the problem. The finance side is not so hard, easyto say but harder to act on. Spend less than you earn and you will get everything you want in the future. Jus tneed to get over the initial hump of spending less to recover and get into a positive position financially so you are not living week to week. Good luck