Do I just have bad friends or is this normal?

Question

I am 22, have 4 close friends who I have been friends with for over 5 years. I have been wanting to plan a holiday with atleast one of these friends for next year as I eventually have the money to go away!These friends know each other vaguely but only through me. I only want to go away for a week to spain. Anyway all of these 4 friends have basically declined my offer, all of their reasons are "I dont want to leave my boyfriend for a week I couldnt bare leaving him".I consider them as my closest friends hence the reason I asked them. I think its a really poor excuse, I have been really annoyed because now I have the money etc and they know I have had a stressful year, and none of them will come with me because of their boyfriends!! I broke up with my boyfriend at the start of the year and I still would have went on holiday with a friend even if I was still with him.Do I just have bad friends or is this normal?

Answer 1

its what happens, when you get older boyfriends come first it has happened with me with every one of my friends and other peoples friends. its really **** but thats what happens when you get older!  

Answer 2

Go by yourself and just meet some one while you are there because while they have boyfriends already. It will still be very awkward to loosen up and have a good time with a woman that is already taken by some one else.

Answer 3

Yeah that is asking an awfully lot of them... a week for a year, leaving a loved one hurts =/

Answer 4

Sometimes you have to mature, your friends might want to go on holiday with their boyfriends.

When you got into a relationship you want to spend the money on a holiday & go together as a couple.

I think they are acting normal,  if they were about 16, 17 then yes  but not in their 20's,  sorry.

They want to spend every second with there boyfriends & it hurts like h**l if you are not with them for a week

Answer 5

Although they are not bad friends per say. It does suck that they have to do everything everything with their boyfriends only.

Is there new friend you can take? You never know you may find that a not so close friend is much more commited to spending time with you than those so willing to drop you when a man is around?!

Answer 6

I think that's pretty normal. They aren't bad friends.

It can be hard for one member of a couple to spend that much $ on themselves, leaving the other out, too.

Were you offering to pay their way?

Answer 7

that is pretty normal actually.  

first because it is going off to a different country and it would be harder to reach/ call your friends from the states.

and just because you have the money, they might not be able to afford their own trips unless you're willing to contribute.

although you guys are probably all around 20 years old, parents might still have a say in what your friends would want to do.

usually when friends plan to go on a far away trip, it usually takes a while to plan everything out.

good luck!