Do I need to grow up...or does he? Am I Crazy?

Question

For four years I had this great guy friend who I trusted more than anyone n the world, you know we hung out, laughed, joked and just did what everyone else did. And along with all my other friends everything was great. Of course, as usual, the guy who's your best friend has a massive crush on you and in the end I gave it a go TWICE. The first time was just awkward and i was only like 12. Bu a couple of months ago we went out again and he was a total d**k and I got so angry I just had to dump him, And it totally ruined the friendship and to get over me he went out with my best friend which I was fine about but I told her to be careful of him, I didn;t want her getting hurt because she had fancied him for ages. And he ended up breaking her heart. And now everything is over, the frienship we all shared as a three and its all gone. And now he makes fun of me, pushes down my self esteem, looks down his nose at me and is a general c**t. But call me crazy, I miss him. I miss his friendship. I miss his talks, I miss everything we used as friends and I don't know why. Can anyone help me make sense of this?

Answer 1

You sound very young.

You have a co-dependant attitude.

When you age and mature, you'll look back at the boy as a bad memory.

Life goes on.

Answer 2

the real question is.....how old are you...?

Answer 3

because you loved him

not boyfriend - girlfriend

like a brother

tell him this

tell him you miss him

call/invite him and tell him this

Answer 4

Learn from this. You cant have a relationship with a friend because if the relationship ends then so does the friendship. You may get your friend back one day when the dust has settled but I doubt it will be soon

Answer 5

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukcg9Sq0v...

that tells you everything you need to know

Answer 6

Yes you are insane  

Answer 7

well crazy every1 wants a friendship and u hav been missing his friendship so get more friends. they may not b like him but thats a bonus as he has been acting like a **** ****. ignore him when he lowers ur self esteem cause he probably has self esteem isues and thats why he is a **** ****

good luck

Answer 8

Sounds like you're just grieving for what you had, past tense.  It WAS a good friendship at one point but he guy's changed.  He's turned out to be something you thought he wasn't, something you dont like, so he's not that nice guy who was once your friend anymore.  So you need to let it go, and dont be tempted to give him another chance, unless you truly believe he's grown up and is sorry for the way he's treated you and your friend.

Answer 9

Hun, of course you're going to miss all the great times together. You guys were great friends and you sounded like you had great times. It;s fully understandable that you miss that. Anyone would.

But he did mean things and shouldn't be forgiven easily. You and your other best friend have each other's company now.

s***w this guy! You are most definetly not crazy. I'm serious.

I miss talks with my ex-best friend who was a complete b*t*h to me. So we are nto friends anymore either. Just talk with your best friend about it. I'm sure she may feel the same way too.

good luck hun!