Do I really like him, or just the thought of him?

Question

my guy friend told me that he likes me and I kind of like him too. We talk a lot and he's cool to hang out with. I am not desperate for a boyfriend but I would like one and I'm all up for getting to know him better. The problem is I don't know if I really like him, or if i just like him as a friend but like the feeling of having him as a boyfriend. He's probably going to ask me out next week and I don't know what I'm going to say. Probably yes because I want to see how we would work as a couple and I want to get to know him better in a different than "just friends" way. Another, smaller part of me is telling me no though. What do you think?

Another complication, and i feel guilty admitting this but I also like this 10th grader (i'm in 9th) who is kind of the artistic- photographer, guitar player, skater kind of guy...he's more "my type" and I sit next to him in math and talk to him a lot but I don't think I have a shot in H E L L with him, plus he likes this 11th grader. I'm going to be completeyl honest about this, even though I don't want to- I think I like him more than I will admit to because the other guy is more friendly and likes me back, while this guy is out of my league and I wouldn't want to miss out on a good thing for a guy who I don't think will ever be more than a friend.

Oh I don't know what to do, I am soooo confused please help!

Answer 1

It's way better if you are friends before you date, with whoever you date.

I think you may not know how much you like your friend. Just give him a chance. He told you he likes you and that's really really hard for a guy (especially when you are friends first - cause the guy doesn't wanna lose that friendship by asking and you not being interested).

My girlfriend and I walked and talked a lot just as friends - and then I asked her out and it's been good.

Just promise each other you'll always be friends. You don't wanna lose the friendship. Just cover your bases just in case he's not the right one - there's nothing worse than breaking it off with someone you loved as a friend and then not being about to be able to talk because one or the other was hurt by the break up.

Honesty is the key.

Honesty.

Answer 2

If you don't know whether you like him, then you don't like him enough to consider dating him. You know when you like someone in that way.

All you can do is talk to him, become his friend and hope things move further after that. You can't wave a magic wand unfortunately...

:)

Answer 3

When there is a wall separating you, ur not really sitting next to that person you know. How you in the same maths class, either ur 1 year smart, or hes 1 year stupid.

Answer 4

Many women start out from early childhood with the "happily ever after" motif as their life goal, and then judge all men in terms of conformity to this impossible dream, including such nonsense as items of clothing worn when first seen, etc. Being in love with a dream such as this releases similar enzymes to chocolate, with no man in sight! Pity the fool who blunders into such an expectant trap, which there is no way of satisfying. Bottom line, a nice guy with all his faults, which you have to figure out what he needs from you each new day, is real. Chocolate is real. The dream is not. Regards, Larry.

Answer 5

don't hurt your guy friend by going out with him when you like the sophomore.

just let him down gently.

if you go out with him it will only end in disaster.

Answer 6

you probably just like the thought of him. Don't ruin a good friendship if you just wanna experiment with him because that always ends bad especially if you aren't sure you like him like him. that's always regret able.  

Answer 7

First you are going to take each day as it comes..meaning if the one guy asks you out...you will accept and just have a good time...Stop thinking about having a boyfriend and just enjoy yourself...and the other guy...ask him out for pizza or something...just to see where that goes...stop putting stress on yourself to have boyfriend ..just enjoy life and work hard to finish school. You are too young to be tie down

Answer 8

i think u do like him , the first guy, i would definitely go out with him. the second guy i would just be his friend.

Answer 9

11th grade OMG !!! hes old like mccain.  ghetto love baby.  ghetto love

Answer 10

well this is something you have to ask yourself. if you're thinking about saying yes, then picture you several months from now going out on dates with him, holding hands with him, kissing him, ect. stuff like that. if you cant picture it, or if you can, but you have doubts about it, then its best not to go out with him unless you know for a FACT that you would be happy in this relationship. i hope everything works out for you and good luck :)

Answer 11

WOW! that was pretty intense what you wrote. well i would just be honest with your friend. just say hey you know you don't want a boyfriend you just want to date. so that way your not tied down, no commitments, and you are free to like the other guy. oh! and no guy is ever out of your league most boys are really just dense, actually most men are that way too. so talk to the other guy and see what his views are on dating or if he wants a girlfriend. maybe he thinks your out of his league. everything will work out just fine, you seem very level headed and mature for your age. hope this helps!