Seems that in the last year the only time my daughter (a 17 year old junior in high school) talks to me is when she wants money. The most recent episode was today. She totaled out her car and was nearly killed in the accident. I found out through a friend who read her personal webpage and called me about it. She has denied me access to her webpage. Anyway....Neither she or my ex-wife called me to tell me about the accident but rather I got an email from my daughter saying she needed "Her Money" in "Her Account" to get a new car and for me to send it ASAP. She also said she knew better then to ask me for money but that this was HER money. I put this money in this account for her for a car when she started college. About a month ago, I had gotten mad at her for spending $800.00 on a high school ring, didn't consult me or ask me how much I would contribute but gave me the bill and said Mom wants your half now. She never offered to show me the ring which I found out later she had the last 2 times I saw her. I did give her the money but told her that due to the financial situation that I was currently in, she needed to ask me before she spent money that she expected me to pay half on. I recently had to close down my (at one time very successful real estate company) business and let all 10 of my employees go. I currently am working 3 jobs to try to recover my major loses. My daughter knows all of this but doesn't seem to care. This is a very complicated situation....my daughter has been seriously ill and on chemo from age 7 till she was 15. She recently went into remission. Because of her illness I guess I've created a monster as I've never told her no before. I divorced her mom nearly 16 years ago. I've always paid her support, half her medical and travel to the hospital. I even paid my ex-wifes missed wages when she took her up to the hospital 4 hours away. I've never missed a payment and have never questioned the extras. Now money is very tight and I'm fighting to keep my wife of 8 years, my 2 year old daughter and I from being homeless. I've started saying no. My ex is loving it and taking total advantage of the situation to sever of relationship. The last conversation I had prior to this last email was my ex-wife calling me to tell me that my daughter never wanted to see or speak to me again. I have tried to be the best Dad possible. My currently wife is so upset about this as she sees what it's doing to me. My daughter has not returned any of my phone calls or emails for the past month and now has her hand out once again. Since she won't take my calls, I plan to email her and tell her that we need to meet face to face to discuss this matter or I will not consider releasing the money to her. Is this the right thing to do?
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