Do NOT want to be homeschooled.?

Question

My mom wants me to homeschool for my ninth grade year, and I do no want to at all! I'd miss out on a ton of things, and I just found out If I stay, I'll be a peer-leader. Please help me! I need help finding out a way to tell her why I don't want to go and how to do it. PLEASE HELP!!????!!

Answer 1

I'm in ninth grade, have a job, take five outside classes, and get to be out of school early. And I'm home-schooled. Home-schooling is so fun and busy. You have more time to do things with your friends. If you really want to go to public or private school then make a list of everything that  you benefit in going to your school. Have you ever been home schooled? I'd give it a try. It's so fun! It is nothing like people say.

Answer 2

Homeschooling is really fun! i have been homeschooled since third grade. its really fun! you can be done with school as soon as you get all your subjects done, even if its at noon or before. if you know people that are homeshooled, you can talk to them in the middle of the day, and if you are using the same curiculum, you can help each other with homework. There are homeschool groups where you can meet homeschoolers your age. It is a LOT better than you think. you might enjoy it a lot! if your mom lets you you can sleep later instead of having to wake up super early to go to school, and you can stay in your pjs all day. you dont have to worry about getting ready. you will have time to do so much more things, and you have the cance to learn better.

dont give your mom too much trouble...if you still really dont want to try it, throwing a fit wont help you out at all it will just get you grounded...lol

Answer 3

Home-schoolings great.. you can have a job and there no homework and you can sleep in andstuff..

But obviously its not for everyone.

Tell her you dont want to be stuck at home all day and miss out on the fun things at school, ask her why does she want to homeschool you? does she not feel that your learning enough at school, and what would she like you to do so you can stay at school?

good luck xo

Answer 4

How do you know you won't enjoy it? You don't have to miss out on anything.

You can work at your own pace, you don't have to be in school day. It only takes about 3 hours to finish the work for a day and then you are free to have a social life. You do need to be self motavated.

If you really hate the idea talk to your mom. Fits are not allowed. Find out why she wants to home school you. Talk about the issues she has with you being in school. About the issues you will face in High School. Let her talk to you about what High School was like for her. The drugs, voilence, s*x, and parties are big reasons some parents choose to home school at the high school level.

Answer 5

First thing not to do,throw a fit.

itll just show her that your not mature and defainitly not ready for high school.

all i can tells you is to act mature,be responsible,and work hard in school and maybe she'll notice.if she doesnt right away,that fine,dont go and bug her about it.

hope i helped(:

Answer 6

well i'm have home education and i also go to a part time school on wednesday and i'm at collage i think it's great cuz u have one on one education and i only have to do 2 hours of work a day. if anyone dosen't like that then they must be mad!

Answer 7

Just so you know, my kids don't miss out on anything.  What's a peer-leader, anyway? One of our many goals in homeschooling, is teaching our kids to use the brains they have and to not be led about by "peers".

Answer 8

The good thing here is that you have a few months between now and then to learn more and communicate with your mother. I would suggest you start asking why she wants to do it...then LISTEN!  Don't try to think of arguments to counter her reasons. Just listen. Find out what she wants to do, what she hopes to accomplish. Give yourself a few days to absorb the information, then start doing your own research. If you still don't like the idea, then ask her to address your concerns. Have a list of questions for her, she needs to know your concerns too. Finally, ask if she is willing to compromise...if you are still miserable after the first half of the year, will she allow you to go back to regular school.  Then if she agrees, do yourself a favor...don't decide to be miserable. Really give it a chance... you never know, you might actually enjoy it.

Answer 9

I think you should really sit down and talk with your mom.  Calmly explain to her just how important going to school is to you.  As a homeschooling mom myself, I would listen to my child and take his or her into consideration.  But also be prepared to listen to the reasons why your mom wants to do this also.  I wish you the best!!!

Answer 10

First of all, ask her why she wants you to be homeschooled. Is it becasue she cares about your saftey, or she think syou'll be distracted at school? If she deosn't come up with a good reason, then convince her to let you go to regular school if you work harder and get btter grades.

If that doesn't work, maybe make a deal with her, If homeschooling doesn't work out, she should let you return to school before the second half of the school year, or maybe even before then.

Answer 11

I agree with the first answer in that freaking out is not going to help you get what you want. In fact, it will probably work against you, and force your mom to play the "I'm the mom, you'll do what I say," card.

It's going to be hard, but if you want to figure this out, you're going to have to hold back your emotions for a bit. Imagine you are the CEO of a company, and you just found out that a major investor is backing out. What would be the best course of action?

Research. Find out what is it the other party (your mom) wants, and see how you can get it for her while still getting what you want.

For yourself, I'd suggest researching homeschooling, so that your mom can't spring something up on you and trump your hand. The more well-prepared you are, the better chance you'll have in getting what you want while keeping your relationship with your mom intact.

You also might want to make a list of pros and cons (after having one your research, so that you know what your pros and cons of homeschooling actually ARE, not what you fear the might be.) After you make your list, circle THREE things that are THE most important to you, that you are not willing to compromise on. The rest, you have to be willing to let go of. Then, if your mom is game, ask her to do the same. Then, see where you can negotiate the non-essentials so that you can both get your three circled things.

I was a peer-leader in high school. And to be honest, it didn't really do much for me in the long run. I thought it was the bomb when I was doing it, but now, as an adult, I can tell you that I would not have missed anything significant by not being one. Really, the very best thing about being a peer-counselor/leader, in retrospect, was how often it got me out of class and doing things I enjoyed, which was helping people.

There are many ways to help people in the real world. So, before you freak out and demand that your mom keep you in school, think hard about what you really want. What is is exactly that school is giving you? And, is it possible that another solution might actually get you what you want more.

And, maybe, you'll come to find out that you don't even know what you want. In which case, why fight so hard for something simply because it's what you've always done?

Your mom may or may not be "right" in wanting you to homeschool. But the fact that you are not even entertaining the option, or taking it seriously, means that you are coming from a place of fear and dependency. Good decisions can't be made from that place.

Get yourself informed, get to know yourself and what you want, and then have a frank, unemotional, mature, discussion with your mom. Gain the upper hand by not losing it, and by knowing more about homeschooling than your mom does. And realize that in order to be a leader, even a peer-leader, it's about listening to the needs of others, and taking their opinions seriously.

This situation with your mom is a test. If you can't deal with this, how can you be an effect peer-leader?

Good luck, and hope this all works out for you.