Do South African men have some non violent ways of?

Question

dealing with a woman who loses her noodle once in a while? Or men for that matter...?

I once read a comment from a contributor who said rather than traaping the S***e out of her, he'd just take her hand and spank it to show her she's acting like a little bratt.

I've been locked up in the bathroom before, 'til I calmed down... it worked wonders.

What do you do?

Answer 1

Shout, but any form of violence (even being locked in a bathroom) is unacceptable. I know of men who abuse their wives and wives who abuse their husbands. (like black eyes kind of abuse) and its sickening.

When you were dating you wouldnt have tolerated that behaviour but now you are used to each other you treat each other like rubbish.

Life can get so complicated.

Answer 2

I follow the teachings of the Prophet Mohamed PBUH.

He had seven wives (eish) and would never raise his voice or his hands to them. He would remain quiet. When asked why he did this, his reply "why should I argue with a person that spends the day washing my clothes, cooking my food and take care of my children?"

He also said that if you feel that your wife needs to be disciplined, you may lash her with a single straw of hay or a silk scarf.

Answer 3

s****. now that is exactly why I want to read a copy of the Quran! My husband knows better than to lock me in a room, I will break it down.......when we were younger we used to have screaming matches, we were so stupid, but I can not stay cross for longer than a couple of hours, so we usually "kiss and make up".

Answer 4

I once had a pot chucked at me, and in return he got a tray of 30 flying towards him.  He had to clean up the mess!!  But otherwise, he just clams up.  So irritating!!

Answer 5

I have a short fuse! But in staying that I rarely fight with my boyfriend. He can make me get very angry though with his set ways. He hates it when I shout he just says Tashana calm down otherwise I will ignore you. I hate being ignored, how are we supposed to sort things out if he won't talk?

So when he says this I know he means business and I try my best to talk calmly. It doesn't always work because sometimes the only way to get through to him is by shouting. That's the only time he takes any notice!

Men can make you so cross sometimes!

When I get really cross I will say to my boyfriend, Ek gaan jou oor die kop slaan met 'n panne!! hehe By this point he knows he must back off! lol It then usually means I win haha.

Answer 6

I agree with ferrari man - the silent treatment really works - gets on my nerves and can't stand it when hubby does it to me.

Answer 7

I do not like violent men at all. If we cannot resolve a problem in a peaceful way we have a problem with our relationship.

Answer 8

Lol Honey if he shouts at me I shout back,otherwise I just give him yhe cold shoulder.xxxx

Answer 9

I give my wife the "silent treatment" until she calms down. It works ever time.

Answer 10

If my hubby ever locked me in a room I would break down the door and go after him with full force. When we fight and I get out of hand he walks away and I run to the bedroom and cry until I have calmed down enough to talk.  Luckily our house has 3 stories so there is lots of space to get away.

Answer 11

I'm locked away also. My man knows better than to try argue with me. He locks me in the bedroom &plays some music to carm us both down. Makes me wonder what he'll do one day when i lose my cool, in public...

Answer 12

Walk away. It's not worth the effort trying to reason with someone in that state.