Do You Believe in Fate or do you think we choose everything for ourselves?

Question

If you dont believe in fate then how do u know if everything we choose for ourselves is our destiny to do so?

Answer 1

There is always a 90 /10 principle running in out life.

Its 10% fate (which cannot be controlled by you) and rest 90% is in your hand how you live with it.

People tend to mistake 90% as fate , but they are wrong.

You are the owner of the rest 90% things happening in your life.

I will give you example.

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided

by how you react. What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot

stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving,

which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in

traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.

You determine the other 90%.

How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can

control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how

you react.

Let's use an example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a

cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what

just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by

how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking

the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse

and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the

table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change

your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy

crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the

bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are

late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a

15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at

school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.

After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your

briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to

get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive

home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and

daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D".

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here

is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently

say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".

Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and

your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window

and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive

5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on

how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other

90% was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let

the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the

negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your

day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,

getting stressed out etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your

temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering

wheel fall off) . Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket?

Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work?

Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It

will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the

day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no

control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the

other passenger.

Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the

90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You

will lose nothing if you try it.

The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.

The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress,

trials, problems and heartache.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

Answer 2

yeah faith is also there and u have to work hard with urself too, by just thinking things never happen so u need both,

Answer 3

definately fate, everything happens for a reason.

it's predestined.

Answer 4

BOTH.

Answer 5

I believe we choose our actions.  But there is always the random occurances (chance) that affect our lives.  Then there are the actions of others that affect our lives.

SO it isn't an easy question to answer.

Answer 6

I believe that every choice we make has an effect on our future, wether that is longer term or in the shorter term. Fate I feel brings us those choices but we still makje them

Answer 7

It's not fate, it's just that things are set up for you in a certain way, and it's up to you that you to overcome your challenges and pursue your worth. But no, it's not like you can just go through life and everything works fine.

Answer 8

Fate is the big one!! I believe in fate.  we are free to make choices in our lives but the results are your fate no matter if they make sense or they don't. think of a job interview.  you turn out to be the most qualified, but for some reason some one else gets the job.  it is what was writen for you that day. you made the choice to put the effort in getting yourself the job interview, it was fate that had you move on to the next.

Answer 9

Neither.

There's no such thing as fate (hence, the question whether what we choose is our destiny or not makes no sense).

We choose some things; other things are outside of our control -- luck, circumstances, and much of who and what we are.

There's stuff that you don't choose, and stuff you do, and then stuff happens. Lather, rinse, repeat.

This is life.