Do You Ever Feel Sad That Someone Special To You Is Missing...??

Question

Out of seeing your child/ren grow up????

It's coming up to the anniversary of my beloved Foster Fathers death (nearly 7 years). It saddens me to know that my son's never got to meet him. They would have loved their *Poppy*, just as I do.

Answer 1

Oh Charli ..Yes ..my dad passed away 26th April 2000 at aged 60 from the final stages of cancer can't tell you what it was like he was admitted to hospital and weighed 10stone within three weeks my dad weighed less than 6stone, My twins were two on the 23rd April 2000 and three days after my dad passed away peacefully, Thomas was named after him so glad we decided on this .. i still talk to him sometimes about Thomas and him having autism and tell him about Kylie and her dancing ..i would love to think he was watching over us x

Answer 2

My mum died when I was 12, and I'm 14 now. I miss her all the time and am so upset that she won't see me graduate, get married and get to meet her future grandchildren. :( Show your son photos of their Poppy and tell them all about him. :)  

Answer 3

yeah my dad died when i was 8 i'm 29 now and my baby will be one on thursday it really does make me sad that he can't see her and that she can't have her grandad i think he'd have really loved her she's so sweet and giggly

Answer 4

Oh yes, I know what you mean.  My father - in - law passed away a year ago, and it's hard not having him with us anymore.  He and my son were extremely close; we live just a few minutes from my in - laws, so they saw each other almost every day.  While I know my son loves everyone in our family, there's no arguing that Grandpa had a special place in his heart - and vice versa.  Whenever my son does something that he knows would have made my FIL proud, he looks up to Heaven and says, "Did you see me, Grandpa?"  It always pulls at my heartstrings.

Answer 5

Yes.  My Dad died of cancer two years ago so he never even saw me pregnant. I do feel sad that he will never meet his latest grand daughter as I know he would have adored her.  The funny thing is that she really looks like him!  Her eyes are exactly the same shade of electric blue that his were.  My Mum thinks this means she is special to him and he watches over her. I don't really believe that but it would be nice if it were true!

Answer 6

Every day.  My children help me pick flowers from the garden and come with me to the cemetery where we put flowers on Grandpa's grave.  My 9 year old often says he wishes he knew him.  My 6 year old, says she "misses him" which she never knew him, but I understand what she means.

I regret that my husband never had the opportunity to know him.  My husband regrets it too!  He says he wishes he could know the person I idolize so so much.  He actually talks to my dad you know.  This is especially surprising because Mr. Mozz is not a mushy person.  He told me this a couple years ago.  When?  I asked.  "I dont know, if I can't find something in his workshop (at my mothers; he was a brilliant handyman), or if I dont know how to fix something, I ask him what would he do.  Or if the kids did something that I know he'd have liked, based on what you've told me, I talk to him about it."  

thanks for asking this.

Answer 7

My Mum lives over the other side of Aus and she only gets to see my kids once a year, I feel sad for my kids that they only have once a year for a few days with my Mum. She isn't perfect but kids learn lots from the older generations too. Of course if they missed out all together because she had died it would be extra sad. Memories are a good thing, you can explain photos and the special times you had with your foster father, your kids may miss out the "in person" aspect, but they can get to know him through you too.

Answer 8

Yes my mum I would have loved for her to meet my kids and beautiful grandchildren she died when I was 15.

Answer 9

Oh, yeah...

My father, certainly.

And my grandfather- we were very close.

But mostly, my first daughter.  It bothers me that two of my children will only know their sister and their mother's first child as a picture on the wall and their mother crying unexpectedly from time to time...and she was so full of love, she would have just adored these babies, and I wish she was here to help and guide 'her' baby- my now 10 y.o who was very, very close to her...At times I get mad, that those two especially were 'cheated', and at 10, my little girl could have a close in age but 1 year older sister to go through all the changes with. (they were 5 and 7, at the time)

Answer 10

yes i lost my lover since 10 years and its deep in my heart i wish i could just ignore how bad i feel that way

Answer 11

your d**n question made my eyes tear up

my fatherinlaw died 10 months b4 we got married, so he never met our 4 beutiful kids, the only time they meet is when we visit his coffin in the cemetary, which hurts my husband so much, making me so depressed

he was great with kids and they wouldv loved having him in their life, he was only 49 when he died suddenly [massive heart attack]

i always imaging how life would be with him here still, alot better and happier!

ok,, now im crying,,....

my hubby is a tough guy that holds his feelings in, so now and then i bring it up so he knows that i care and miss him too

sad stuff, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx sorry about your dad too, it aint fair

Answer 12

Yes! My mum died when I was fifteen and my daughter is only six so she will never know her granny but I know they would have loved each other so much! And I miss my mum just being a mum to me even though I'm 27 and a mum myself! I often tell my daughter about her and sometimes she aks too so she is never forgotten!  

Answer 13

Sometimes yes of course it makes you feel sad because you would have loved to share your special person with your loved ones,but unfortunately if they have passed on you cant do anything, you can talk about how great that person was : )

Answer 14

i lost my sister when i was 9, and she was 19.  she died in a car crash.  i was just a bratty kid, and i was angry with her for going away for the weekend instead of hanging with me, so i refused to say g'bye when she left.  never got the chance to say anything again.  death is sad, we all miss our loved ones who've gone before us.  you just hafta keep on living and remembering them, that's what they would want.  i'm sorry for your loss, i feel your pain, just live and be happy, like i'm sure Poppy would have wanted you to do.  share the love....<3

Answer 15

Yes my daddy passed away 8 yrs ago and never got to meet our children... also my bro is mad at us for stuff and hasnt spoken to us in 9 yrs and he is missing his nephews growing up and becoming young men, and it saddens me... i know my daddy is looking down on us from heaven and he is watching the boys grow up , but my bro isnt and that is sad... My daddy was a loving and gentle man and i know he would of loved our kids as much as we do...

Answer 16

My beautiful mum died two years ago - just before my twin boys' second birthday and before the birth of my nephew. I grieve for the fact that they never really got to know her. And I miss her so much every day.

Answer 17

Yes I lost many friends through the years and my heart still aches for all of them !!!

Answer 18

My son isnt here yet, but I'm sad that he won't meet my grandad. I was very close to him and would've loved for them to meet. He was very much a father figure to me and amazed with his knowledge and fun loving nature. He was very strict and sarcastic, but at the same time so loving and funny. I just wish my son could've seen all of that.

That being said, just because he isnt here now physically doesn't mean I won't talk about him. I'll tell him all the funny stories and hopefully, he'll get a sense of knowing him.

Answer 19

yes. my daughter was baptised on sunday 3rd aug.

on sat 2nd august, it was the 9th anniversary of my aunts death. i was so close to her. my dad worked away, my mum was an alcoholic, we stayed with my aunt a lot, she was like my mum. she died of cancer. she had a lot of faith and I'm sad she never met my wonderful daughter - like mz rahi said, i feel my daughter was cheated by not knowing her.

i know she would be proud of me and my daughter, and by pure chance, the minister picked 2 of her favourite hymns for the service and i had previously asked for another. it was a beautiful service nad i really felt like she was with me, my partner and our daughter.

Nichola - Mummy to 11mos old Sophie x*x

Answer 20

i know how you feel like when my daughter was born I wish my father was, it makes me sad i miss him and my daughter has his eyes I know that god took my father but gave me my daughter I think about that when Im feeling blue

Answer 21

Yeah, I feel sad when I think of all the different milestones and special moments my mum is missing out on (and what my kids are missing out on by not really knowing my mum) *sigh*

It will be 6 years in December since she passed away...my daughter was 8 weeks old and my son was 4 yo.

She would have spoilt them rotten had she lived :(

Answer 22

Oh yeah

I was just getting to know my father when he passed away, and I wish he could see his grandson

My own grandfathers. My Aussie Grandfather and my Dutch "Opa"

I was really close to my grandfather, and just know he would adore Joseph

Only meet Opa a few times, but likewise, I know he adored all his grandchildren( and Great and greatgreats)

But the people I esp miss are my two "Adopted" grandfathers

Two old blokes who I loved and will never forget - My "Uncle Ernie" and "Uncle Kees"

I know they are in Heaven looking down and smiling at us- just wish they both could have meet Rebecca and esp that they could have met Joseph. I know they would adore JC, and I could really use their advice with helping Rebecca.

Zero

Answer 23

Sorry, is nature that made it so. I know how you are feeling it happened to  anybody  at any given time.  Why can't you feel sad when someone special to you is dead you must feel so bad because is painful.  Right now as I'm answering your question mine is just fresh just 7 days old, what can we do?  we can not question God.  

Answer 24

Well, my father isn't dead, but he might as well be dead because my children, or me are never seeing him. He abused my siblings and i when we were young and I met with him for the first time in nearly 15 years, back in April. He showed up completely drunk and gave me this c**p that "he's changed." My kids are never seeing that awful man. It does sadden me, but, it's life. What can ya do? I will not expose my kids to what I went through.

xD

~Kate