Do You Ever feel ..?

Question

do you ever feel like alot of people know you, but no one really "knows" you?

I am a pretty outgoing person, I can't seem to hold onto friends very long though, when I'm not smiling big all the time my natural expression looks mad. But it kinds of drain you too always have this perky friendly persona.So everyone always thinks I am mad at them and it gets tiring when they always ask that, but I'm usually always in a good mood, like as soon as you talk to me I get my big smile I usually have and am just really social, but I do have a streak of shyness when It comes to guys and people, like I'll feel like they have to approach me first too talk to them sometimes, and people who don't know that about me me think I come off as a b****, and my friends and stuff grow distant from me, and I have been upset because I didn't do anything to deserve them to stop talking to me, they just pre-judge me.I am captain of my cheer squad at school so I'm by alot of people, but I feel like they know of me, but no one really knows the real me, or wants to.It just gets depressing and lonly, I don't feel like there is anyone I can spill my heart to. and guys just don't usually approach me cause they think I'm a b**** through what people say, but I'm not and they don't know me

it's so hard to change peoples opinions of you.

Answer 1

If you want people to stop judging you, then make them look! Just answer a lot of questions in class, talk to everyone, help people when they need help, join clubs that will make you seem like a hardworking and nice person. If you make it look like you aren't as intimidating, people will ignore the rumors and talk to you. And the friends that you have, just say hey guys and talk to them first so that they know that your not mad. Laugh a lot, that way that makes you look like your in a good mood for the day and people won't worry about you looking mad. And joke around the guys so that they know you aren't a B**** and are actually fun to talk to.  

Answer 2

I feel like that sometimes.

I have a lot going for me and people know me, but they don't know ALL of me.

They don't know that I've been dancing since 5, concert mistress of the orchestra for 2 years & playing since 4, they don't know that I've never made below a 94 on a report card, they don't know that I've played soccer since 3, they don't know that I won 4 medals -- two on varsity -- during my first track season, they don't know that I had to take a Speech class because I had a trouble pronoucing a letter for 6 years, they don't know that I've been living with a knee condition and spent a year in physical therapy only to get back in the game and mess it up again, they don't know that I'm so stressed, they don't know that I have so much on my plate, yet I always manage to keep that huge smile on my face. I'm a "popular" girl in my school, but people see me as the fun girl who is always there to talk to, but they don't know that I go home, go to practice, ice my knee, study, and repeat the whole process over and over again, it's nothing to smile over.

I don't think that you should spill yourself to people, but you should try to let people get to know you better. Try not to be mean, but don't be fake just to attract people. Just smile and go where the current takes you, it doesn't matter what people think. I'm sure that you have one friend who still stay true to you, and that's really all that you need. Just remember that high school is only four years of your life, once it's done, it's done. You won't even remember it. Just put up with people, make some friends, talk to people that you think are interesting, and just have fun.

Answer 3

wow i kinda have exactly what you have sometimes!!!  like it is so hard for me to open up and be like nice to new people. even tho truly i am really nice! i guess thats where my shyness comes in tho! umm but my friends know i am like shy and they know i  can bee mad retarted so its all good:) just tell your friends and see what they have to say:) tell them you dont mean it.  and for people you meet hmmm i guess just try to be happy and seem nice.  i know that is hard but hopefully they will get it.  anyways hope i helped. good luck.  peace(L)