Do You Know Your Children's In Laws?

Question

My Spouse and I dated at a time when I wasnt really chummy with my parents. I was young and.. well, there were issues. Issues aside now. They now know him pretty well, and I know his mom really well.

Sometimes I feel like my mom should know his mom. I mean, for one I think they would get a long and like each other, although I dont think they would really hang out or whatever. But... I dont know. I like the idea of everyone knowing each other.

And what about your child-in-law? I know hiw mom pretty well, but its in a parental sort of way. I mean we are friends, but I couldnt imagine sitting around having girl talk with her... because he is her mom. And I KNOW I wouldnt want him having girl talk about our lives to my mother.

I dont know. I am just pondering.

What are your opinions?

Answer 1

You wouldn't want him having "girl" talk with your' Mother? Hopefully,he's not having girl talk with ANYONE,LOL...

Sorry,just busting chops.Seriously,I've never understood why some families have members that simply don't interact.I was just talking to a girl the other day who has a couple of cousins that she hasen't seen in years...and they live only about 12 miles apart! In some cases,it could be a case of disliking this or that person,and there's no law that says you have to like someone because you're related to them,but in other cases,it's just lack of interest.I guess some take the idea of having family for granted,and simply don't realise that you can make a million friends,but you only get X # of people to call "family" in one lifetime.

In your' particular case,it could be several things.I've "cyber-known" you for some time now,and from what I gather,your' Mother,saint that she's been for you when you've needed her most,is'nt exactly the most easy-going person in the world.Maybe some members of his' family want to avoid a potential problem before it happens. It should be obvious to all that you and the hubby are the Real Thing,and that their' lives will always be intertwined,maybe it's just a matter of dodging a bullet.

Well,one way to find out! Now that you're (hopefully,still) feeling better,see if you can make a little "get-together" happen,get 'em all in the same room,and see what happens! If someone is reluctant,ask them why.I don't know about any of them,but I,personally,would feel rediculous to say that I have family that I don't know well,I would feel like it was some sort of reflection on ME.Maybe some of them feel the same way,and just don't know how to get the ball rolling.It's worth asking about,at least.Good Luck :)(:

Answer 2

I think it would be pretty unusual to have grandchildren in common and not spend at least a little time together. Even if birthdays are done separately, there's always school plays, ball games, etc. My guess is that they will all know each other when you have kids. Just relax and let it happen.