Do You or anyone You Know Have A child With ADD or ADHD I think my 6yrs old son might have it Please Help me?

Question

Just to let You know First My Husband and Myself both have ADHD. But I had It Bad When I was A child. But I have grew out of it , And I do believe you do , because both me and my husband are nothing like that anymore , at least the Hyperactive Part , Not The ADD part.

Ok my son Is 6 yrs old and I’m worried , I think I need to keep him back in Kinder garden because he is really struggling bad , and Cant sit still. I mean this child will move constantly. He will be watching A movie , and he just has to move , like he will climb on the couch and up and down , but He will at the same time be totally in the Movie. You would think he wouldn't know what was going on. lol. And when we talk to him , If there is anything I mean anything else going on in the room he cant look at me or pay attention, he will have to see what else is going on , like the TV if its on Forget it , I’m talking to A wall. And when we ask him to do something he just wont do it at all unless we ask him like 10 times.

Answer 1

take if from me I have a 7 year old daughter that is A.d.h.d. i also have it. It is very much hereditary. you can find a a.d.h.d. check list on line that gives you a check list of signs to look for. talk to your Doctor if he can not test him he should be able to refer you to someone who can. living with this is hard for adults it can be much worse on our kids. I get sick of hear people say that it is a excuse for us parents that are lazy, If you have a concern that your child may have it. follow through and have you child tested I live with it everyday. i promise it will only get worse with out help. Its better to catch it while they are young. please don't listen to the neg stuff about getting your child tested or in meds. my child was tested in preschool she is now on meds aND in the 2nd grade. she is doing so much better. please I beg of you go have him tested. you have it yourself you know how hard it is so now picture what your son maybe dealing with feel free to email me i will gladly discuss this topic and help you in anyway i can

Answer 2

ok, i think half the problem is, is that you expect him to have these problems. a lot of 6 year olds are hyper etc its only natural and its a good thing, so see how he goes.

it seems he might have some disipline issues, this would have nothing to do with ADD etc you just need to set some bounderies.

do activities with him to tire him out, is there a sport or something he would like to get into?

loss of concentraition this can be altered by diet, talk to your doctor cos if u stop feeding him c**p and make him eat more vegitables etc that can make a huge improvement.

basicly i think hes too young to tell, jsut let him be a kid, its important you keep him with kids his own age so dont hold him back a year, if his teachers think theres a serious problem they will do it, but it will only make him loose confidence in himself and at this early age this is not advisable. if hes still struggeling by the time hes about 10 then maybe seek professional help.

there is no conclusive evidence to sugesest ADD or ADHD is hereditary there are links but just cos u suffered from it it does not mean he will.

putting a lable on him will not do him any good

Answer 3

My older sister has ADHD and she was really really REALLY difficult to handle! She was always in fights and being really disruptive and noisy! You can't just assume your son has ADHD because he may be naughty or Irritable. If you want to know for sure get proper tests done with a pediatrician!

Answer 4

I have ADD. I often move around while in a movie, but I don't jump around. And about talking to him and he spaces out, all people do that, so I wouldn't be concerned. I don't know much about ADHD, but it seems your son has a short attention span.

Answer 5

You need to discuss this with your doctor. Self-diagnosis is never a good idea, especially not with something like ADHD where loads of the symptoms are the exact same ones that any normal kid has if they're a bit overexcited.

Same with the kindergarten. It shouldn't be you that is worrying whether he needs to be kept back, it should be his teacher telling you whether he's coping or not and whether she thinks it will help. Your decision, of course, but you need the professional advice first.

Answer 6

I honestly think every kid on the planet could be diagnosed wiht ADD/ADHD, or some other form of "illness". It is was over diagnosed.

Sounds like you have a very normal little boy to me. My sons were exactly the same when they were six years old. My oldest even got tagged ADD. I didn't put him on any medication, just a bit of counseling. I regret the counseling now, because he was around 11 or 12, and it really affected him emotionally, like he was one of the "bad" kids that needed help. I don't think the counseling was beneficial either. My mistake was listening to his teacher's recommendation. Later found out the b!+ch had just recently divorced and was a man hater. My son, and all the rest of the boys in her class suffered because of her mental instability.

Also, what I see from your post is a disciplinary problem. You said you have to repeatedly tell him to do something. You need to stop the repetitions, and take action. Tell him once, if he doesn't do it, you take him by the hand and lead him to it and teach him how to do it. I would discipline bad behavior with a spanking as well. He needs this training. If he won't listen to his parents as a child, he certainly won't listen to adults when he grows up, including the rules and laws of society.

Many kids are misdiagnosed with ADD. It is intended for children that cannot maintain focus for a certain amount of time, right? Well, if a child can sit and play a video game for a long time, he most certainly is focusing on it, right? Your kiddo is able to focus on movies while he is simultaneously bouncing off o f the walls, right? Don't be too anxious to put him on meds. Try the disciplinary route first for a few months, and see if things change. It was really helpful for me to read up on books that told of age related growth characteristics and stuff about kids.  

Good luck. Parenting is the hardest job on planet Earth, but it is the most rewarding. One day your son will be a teenager, and you will certainly appreciate the self-discipline that you taught him as a child. He might not, but believe me, YOU will!!!

Answer 7

http://www.adhdnews.com/

You can join for free OR just read for free. I'm sure you already know of this website but I found it 'wonderful' to just VENT on. YOU know how your son feels...so just keep that in mind because you went through it as a child didn't you? Some things he does he can't help. ALSO: we have a great deal of structure...and it helps him (our son) to realize consequences for good/bad behavior. See I believe in rewarding for "good" behavior. I try to catch him doing something good and make a HUGE deal out of it. It works! Try it.

I wish you and your child the very best.

Final note: Yes I do believe kids grow out of this. I've seen it with my own eyes.

Answer 8

I have a son who is 8 and is adhd and as anyone dealing with it knows it can be very frustrating.

First address the school issue.  He is kindergarten and already struggling to keep up.  This could be from adhd and it could also be from immaturity.  Some children just are not ready to start at the same time as others so holding them back a year at this point can be beneificial to the child.  You also have to look at how big is he, if he is already bigger than most of his classmates then maybe go ahead and move him up but get him a tutor to help out.  If he is bigger than all of the other kids then chances are he might become the class bully.  Sit down with your son's teacher and express all of your concerns with her and ask for her input.

A child not sitting still can be a lot of things and not just adhd.  My oldest is 15 and that child is always on the move and has been from birth I think but she is not adhd.  The pediatrician said she is just a highly emotional child and pacing is her way of dealing with stress.  I believe that because she has always been an honor student and never in any trouble.  I have trouble focusing on what someone tells me if I am already thinking about or doing something else so I am sure it is the same for a child.  A 6yo boy can be distracted by so many things.

Fighting is common among boys however at this age it is usually nothing more than pushing or words.  Also remember if your son gets frustrated because he is behind the other students in school work chances are he might be taking the frustration out in a different way which would explain some of the fights.  Him taking things and denying it is common in kids and it is also normal for them to blame someone else for what they have done.  That is when we as parents have to step in and teach them right from wrong.

The only way to find out if your son is truelly adhd is to get his school and the pediatrician involved.  Make an appointment for him with the doctor and let them know why you are bringing him in so they can schedule you a large block of time.  They should then send out questionairs for you, all of his teachers, daycare providers, family etc to fill out on what you observe with the child.  The doctor then will go over all of those plus what they observe and tell you which direction you are heading in.  A good doctor will not automatically hand you a prescription for a pill and if yours does this then find another one, you need a doctor who will listen and take in all the facts first and then give all the options.

Answer 9

take him to a neurologist and have him tested.  if it is found that he does have add or adhd, talk to the doctor about any treatments that doesn't require drugs.  you may have to go through a couple treatments before you find one that will work.  don't take a medical diagnosis from a teacher, they have no training in that at all.  back in the day, teachers would say students had this just so they didn't have to deal with energetic children.  they rather have a bunch of zombies that would sit quietly so their jobs were easier.  all children have different energy levels.  just please use a drug treatment as a last resort, when all other treatments have failed.

Answer 10

You should get him pills.

Answer 11

you'll need to speak with your school, the majority of school shave programs to catch and treat children with ADD/ADHD the consoler or principle is a great start. The bad news is this is quite late in development that treatment will be starting and your looking at up to a year to find the right combination of medicine to correct him.

trust me when i say i HATE drugging a child but sometimes it has to be done, my nephew has the same issues you described and with in 6 months we found a regime of meds that got him on track and hes actually in a split class now, half the day with 1st grade the other with kindergarten and getting all A's

edit: the reason to get the school involved is they can effectively diagnose your child with what ever is wrong with him. it may take some persistence but it should be ok in the end, you have a long hard fight on your hands, best of luck and hope it comes out alright :)

Answer 12

You have a problem here.

The first thing you need to do is to cut out any food with additives in.  Cut out artificial flavourings and colours.  Try and keep to fresh fruit and veg and read labels of everything.

I know of others who have noticed a marked improvement as soon as all of this was cut out of the diet.

Its worth trying this.  You wont believe the difference in his behaviour.

Answer 13

2 points

Answer 14

you and your husband probably never had ADHD. You were probably misdiagnosed. Sorry but ADHD doesn't just go away, you dn't "outgrow" it. If you have it, you always have it. I have known people who have it for real and they have it for life. As you get older you learn how to deal with it and so you overcome a lot of the issues you have as a child but yu never outgrow it.

ADHD is SO overly diagnosed. You say you outgrew the H part of the ADHD which is just silly. The H doesn't just mean hyper. You should really do some research on the dosorder. You can be ADHD innatentive type and not have any hyperness.

Also don't be so quick to look toward ADHD for your child, there are so many different things that can look like ADHD such as auditory processing disorder which makes it hard for children to focus when there is any background noise in a room and sometimes they misunerstand what people say to them because of the way their brain processes the information they hear.

There could be a lot going on so if you do have your son evaluated, make sure you look into all possible causes and not JUST ADHD.

Answer 15

No, but my son suffers from retardation. he has to be locked in a cage all day, its a very serious case of retardation.

Answer 16

hard to say u can pursue it with school force them to make accomidations my view s that while real its over diagnosed ur child sounds like a free spirit to me

Answer 17

everyone has add, some just have it worse than others. I would recommmed counseling to see what steps that you have to make.

Answer 18

No.  I haven't been acquainted with or seen any child with ADD or ADHD. But I know children who are labeled ADD and ADHD.

Society likes to label kids with a disease to cover their behinds when they fail to properly raise their children.

If children were allowed to be educated in a different environment than the public school system (where they sit down for 6 1/2 hours a day) and were taught in a hands-on environment, properly trained and disciplined, and given a proper, whole-food diet, rather than a processed one, no one would have any problems.

Your son doesnt sound ADD AT ALL.  He sounds like a typical kid who isn't trained or disciplined.  You have to tell him 10 times to do something because he knows he can wait those 10 times before you get angry at him.

The word 'No' means absolutely nothing when there are no negative consequences. What do you think is going through your son's mind? "Mommy told me no, but that doesn't mean I have to obey, nothing bad will happen if I don't." You need to follow up disobedience with immediate consequences.  Not repeat instructions.  

Your son's actions aren't 'normal' for a well-trained and properly raised child. But they are 'typical' for most children.  It's not a disease. It's training.

You have trained him to be the way he is BY  NOT TRAINING HIM.

Answer 19

Wowie Zowie, that sound JUST like my seven year old !!!  I have just started the process of testing him for ADD at a Center for Learning and Behavior. I, too, noticed him struggling in school. I took it upon myself to approach his teachers, get him "coded", set him up with an IEP and kept him back in Kindergarten. He is now is first grade and all that "advocating" was well worth it. He is doing much better this year. Work with your school system, the teachers, guidance, special ed and ,if they have one, the school psychologist. Talk to them about your concerns and ask them to help you help your son. Good Luck,Sweetie!!

Answer 20

I'm a teacher and I typically think long and hard before suggesting to retain a student. I would talk to the teacher to clarify the reasons for retention. If it's just because he's bouncy, not a good reason. If it's because he hasn't learned the kindergarten material, that's a good reason. Many children are held back in K and go on to have very successful school careers. I wouldn't worry too much about it.

I would be worried about his bounciness and inattentiveness. The only one who can diagnose ADD/ADHD is a doctor. Schools cannot diagnose this. An ADD/ADHD diagnosis does not require medication. There are other options out there. What an ADD/ADHD diagnosis can do for your son is get him the extra help and attention he needs at school to succeed. Unfortunately, to get extra help, he has to have a diagnosis. I run into this a lot. Parents don't want their child labeled. Then, my hands are tied as far as what I can do to help him or her. I would make an appointment with your doctor to start the evaluation process. It will require you and the teacher to fill out paperwork that assesses your son's behavior in various situations. Once a diagnosis has been made, work with the doctor and the school to create a plan that meets your child's needs. Make sure to follow the plan at home, as well. Once your child gets accustomed to the plan and falls into a routine, things should go better all around. Good luck!

Answer 21

ADD and ADHD are hard to diagnose many parents believe their child has it and some teachers do as welll. Please try everything you can before giving your child medications.