Do all fathers hate their son in laws or is my dad just a jerk?

Question

My dad obviously hates my husband. I have been married for six years now and the longer I am married the worse my dad has been acting towards my husband. Always behind my husband's back, of course. He has never once said anything rude or offlandish to my husband's face. He just says crappy things about my husband to everyone else, including my husband's boss and me. My question is, is this typical do all fathers hate their son in laws?

Answer 1

  I was raised by my single dad,..and Im someone whos been married twice,devorced twice to two terrible and abusive men. My dad is the opposite of yours it seems. your ina relationship that works and your     dad isnt supportive. my dad.?? (.I WISH  HED  HATED MY MAN!!) my dad is still attatched to my ex and prefers him to me. the son he never had. sick,isnt it. after readingt this im thinking your dad doesnt want to let go of you. try and find something good here...about yer dad. I would gladly trade

Answer 2

Maybe with you not working he thinks your hubby has you as a "kept" woman. What do you say to him when he talks bad about hubby to you? I hope he's not saying these things to you in front of the kids.

After six years married it doesn't seem very typical to me. You need to sit him down and talk to him, and tell him saying things to the boss is off limits. That's messing with the mans lively hood, not cool at all. As long as he's good to you and the kids there shouldn't be a problem. Tell your dad he needs to find a hobby that doesn't involve verbally bashing your hubby!

Answer 3

Well,seeing as we do not know your Dad OR yourhusband, we will have to assume your Dad is psychotic or mentally ill, or your husband has some serious flaws,OR a combination of the 2.So which is it?

Answer 4

why don't you try asking him, i'm sure he has a reason!

Answer 5

My dad loves my boyfriend, they get along really well. So no it's not always true. However, I think your dad does that because he is jealous. Not very good :/ have you tried talking to him about it?

Answer 6

well, its pretty common. your daddy's little girl and he's just being protective. pay no mind to it. unless its really getting bad

Answer 7

I could see before you got married maybe if he didn't like him he could say something, but now you guys are married. If he doesn't like something he should just keep his mouth shut, and definitely not talk to his boss about it.

Answer 8

Not in my world. My Dad adores my husband and tells people "I'd trust my son-in-law with everything I have." My husband gets along very well with our SIL. He helps him with projects around their house and shows him how to do stuff - his Dad isn't at all handy.

Talk to your Dad in private and tell him nicely that, when he says stuff about your husband, it hurts you.

Now, the other question: Does your Dad have a reason to say something? Did you marry someone with real problems? Be honest with yourself about that; and, if so, do something about it.

Answer 9

I don't know if its typical, as my stepfather is not typical-he hates everyone.But then my stepfather has been saying things about my husband, since way before I got married. In addition he has constantly had something to say about both of my sisters husbands.

I have heard more about the mother-in-law hating the daughter in law(which is what I seem to have) and pulling all kinds of antics to get her way.