Do all men want damsels???

Question

So women who don't want to be the "damsel" don't have a chance? Do all men want damsels??? Do girls who don't want to be protected have a chance???

I don't want to be protected. I want to be loved, but I want to show that I can protect myself. Is it a turn-off for guys???

Is it a turn on for all men to "protect"?

Answer 1

Well, I have been with my husband for 26 years, on and off, and so far a situation where he had to protect me has not yet arisen.  I don't know if it ever will.  I suppose I would like to think that if it did arise he would protect me, since he is a lot bigger and stronger than I am, and I suppose I would be a bit dismayed if he scarpered and left me to protect myself.

However, the occasion has not yet arisen, and probably never will.  It's not something I regard as being of great importance in comparison with other things.  Do you get into dangerous situations very often?  Do you think the issue of protection is likely to be important in your life?  if so, maybe you should consider moving to a safer neighbourhood or something?

Answer 2

Are all men identical in what they find romantically appealing?

No.

Many men prefer real humans to fictional characters.

Why do you "want to show that you can protect yourself"? That sounds silly to me.

Keeping an eye out for signs that a guy wants to be Knight Protector is one thing; going out of your way to prove you can protect yourself is unnecessary, and will give the opposite impression to what you want.

Answer 3

The more difficult any potential partner becomes, the more lonelier they might be.  Goes for both sexes.  

Edit:I love both damsels & a strong woman.

Edit: Oh I see what you are saying.  There's the ever popular "I don't need a man" to feel happy/complete singles ad.  Then the ad continues how they want a man... Same thing for the protection...its as if we are a disease or we might actually do something good.  

Makes a guy feel so...unwanted.  As if you already know before hand that you will be treated like a piece of dirt.  Now I know how women felt 50+ years ago.

Answer 4

Not not at all.  But be careful of falling into the trap of those who want 'strong' women as well - you don't want to be leaned on all the time, and get nothing in return.  The trick is finding someone who wants true equality, a difficult balancing act.  But there are many men out there who want this, you just have to find them  :-)

Answer 5

I can fight off a man as well as any woman who says that she can 'protect herself' but I'd never sneer at a helping hand from the physically stronger s*x.

A guy could fight off another guy a h**l of a lot better than I could and watching him doing so would be really hot.

Women who take self defense classes are deluding themselves. More women should carry guns.

Answer 6

No. There are plenty of guys who are turned on by independent women.

Answer 7

it's not a turn on,but we have to do it,It's a man's job to protect women,that's why most men are like that.

Answer 8

No, but women who cannot decide what they want are a definate turn off.

ie. Women who take offense to the idea of a man "protecting her" or her being a "damsel" in need of his help, but then someone says something offensive to her, and he remains quiet rather then defending her, and she rips his head off , for not defending her...

Answer 9

It's not a turn-off for the kind of men I'm sure you'd like to have a relationship with. If it was a turn-off for any guy...would you want to spend any time in his company anyway?

There are plenty of men in the world who will treat you as an equal. Most of them, in fact.  

Answer 10

I love damsels and plums, especially when they're freshly picked and ripe and sweet.

Mmmm ...

Answer 11

I think it is a turn on for some men to protect as that is who they are and nothing is wrong with that. They have a deeply masculine personality and that is fine. They just need to find their compliment and those who a re little more vanilla amongst us need to find their androgenous partners who want equality on all terms. I do not mean to be egregious or anything but just find the man you want and don't try and change anyone...At least you have a crystallized idea of what sort of man attracts you. Not many do.