Do any ladies out their feel over touched?

Question

What i mean by that is ... you have been holding your baby all day, she goes down for a nap, your other children are all over you, and then your husband comes home and he wants... you know. I know that this is normal and all (no bad comments please, it's just the way i am feeling now) but dont you sometimes what to yell, "I want 15 mins that doesnt envolve sleeping were no one is touching me!" LOL

Answer 1

OH of course,

even worse you breastfeed your baby all day then your husband comes home and thinks because he hasnt been there your b*****s have been ignored and feels he must try and touch them alot!!

That always gets me!  :)

Answer 2

Right on Sister!

Answer 3

YES! I wish I had a "no touch" bubble I could put on for about a hour a day. LOL

Answer 4

Not so much now but when when I was breastfeeding, yes.

Answer 5

Perfectly normal, i just tell hubs im going in for a bath, pour in the calgon and get some time to myself, i mean how can we not feel that way sometimes, we cant even take a poo without a kid wanting in to observe. lol, you are not bad, just need some space..i know how you feel. Trust me that I do, just keep it in perspective and be careful not to push your loved ones away, just remove yourself for awhile..

Answer 6

Yes, I get that way sometimes.  Not as often as in the past, but I know the feeling, too.  It really makes you feel that way when you are pregnant, because the baby is ALWAYS touching you, 24/7.

Answer 7

Well personally I can't REMEMBER feeling like that because now my 4 have grown into teens and child birth is a long gone memory....  and NOW I'm missing all the touching from kids who are now too old to NEED ME and a husband that doesn't touch me ENOUGH - so YES you're normal and just going through ONE OF LIFE'S phases!

You are tired, emotionally drained, physically spent, don't get enough sleep, don't get time to yourself anymore and you just want to REST for Petes Sake - Everyone just go away for a few minutes would ya?  Am I right???  I get it!!  : )

SO really it's more THAT than not wanting to be touched because you DON'T WANT TO have those words escape your mouth to your husband because he will never FORGET them.  So if you need to express things just tell him you NEED A BREAK, you need some alone time, you need some peace and solitude and s*x just needs to take a little vacation for a few weeks or a month or two.....  YOU ARE perfectly allowed and normal in feeling this way.  HE NEEDS to have a reality check I'm afraid... MAYBE he should come on here and READ some other mothers responses himself so he SEES IT"S NORMAL and not just you!

Hang in there - it will pass... be patient but talk to him about it too.

Answer 8

I understand and its normal to want your own space....I was never like this towards my children they can cuddle and be in my arms as much as they want,even in hot humid weather....but I do miss the adult attention(single mom)

Answer 9

I think it's totally normal.  I feel like that too.  Like someone is ALWAYS climbing all over you!

Answer 10

Yes, it called needing alone time and everybody does.  Just tell the hub to back off or have him take the other children for awhile so you can get some to recuperate enough to want some adult loving.

Answer 11

That sounds totally reasonable.

Ask your husband to take the kids for 30 minutes - 1 hr each night while you do what you want to do.

I don't blame you at all. People need some personal space and alone time.

Answer 12

Right now I feel the opposite.. I could use some skin to skin contact.

I can definitely see where you are coming from though. People just need their own space sometimes!

Answer 13

I completely understand and went through the same thing when I felt "touched out."  For my final checkup after I gave birth I refused another blood test.  Enough was enough.  I fnally had to realize that my husband would resent this feeling if I didn't participate in his "wanting."  So I sort of set a schedule in my head about the days we would do it.  By knowing ahead of time, I sort of prepared myself physically too.  It's really hard to be giving if you are giving all day long and no one is giving back to you either.  I started going to the gym and doing some other things that were just for ME.  One of these included a Ladies Night.

Answer 14

Especially when I was breastfeeding.  oh my goodness.  I'm glad my husband likes me and all, but jeez... Leave me the h**l alone buddy!

Answer 15

It really is amazing how much we are touched when you really think about it huh?  Then as soon as you ask for everyone to leaveyou alone, you're "the mean mommy" lol.

I find the best cure for that is a good old bath!  Doesnt last long, but I give the kiddo to hubby, lock the bathroom door and loose myself in bubbles for a few minutes.  Or better yet, plan a wine night with some girlfriends and try to regain your sanity!!

Answer 16

Definately.. I feel the same too everyday :) Being a mother is exhausting full-time job..

What do I do ? I go outside.. now summer time so I wear my shoes and go for evening walk.. by doing so I get the alone time I want (plus exercise too). Also I make my husband sleep the kids sometime so that I can have some alone time..