Do any of you feel this way?

Question

I feel as tho i made some mistakes with my 3 yr. old that i dont want to make with my 3 mo. old. My 3 yr. old has everything....name brand expensive clothes, expensive toys, and anything she asks for. Every xmas or bday she receives a motorized toy that she ends up not using, but yet i continue to spend the money on it. She is pretty spoiled. She is a very bright child, but very spoiled. I know it is my fault but i dont know how to take another approach to things with my 3 mo. old. How do i teach both my kids that these things are to be given when they are deserved not just for the heck of it. My 3 yr. old is a very smart kid, but she is bad a lot. I feel as tho its because of my leniency with her when she is bad because she was my 1st kid and i didnt ever want her to be unhappy. I feel horrible knowing that i made mistakes with her and it makes me feel even worse knowing that i want to do things differently with my baby. Has anyone ever felt this way?

Answer 1

The good news it that she is 3!!  She doesn't know how much things cost!!  My oldest was also spoiled, but I got to the point where we had too many things and she couldn't appreciate them.  I had a garage sale with the toys and clothes we didn't use often and started a savings account for her.  When baby #2 (and eventually #3) came, I decided that sometimes less IS more.  I would buy something (not name brand) and put the money I didn't spend in their savings accounts!!

Answer 2

Sounds like you really love your daughter.

You can spoil children with money but never with love.

I think your solution will work out pretty well. When she wants something (like a toy) don't give it to her unless you know she did something well to deserve it. Other than that you should only get her presents on Christmas and her B-Day. Teach her the meaning of please and thank you. Plus the value of money when she gets older. Sorry if I'm talking too much I just don't want to see her on that MTV show "Super Sweet 16"  

Answer 3

Good luck with that!! She's 3....doesn't understand money...it's up to you!! The parent!!!!

Answer 4

well i think ur too late! u should of thought about that b4 you spoiled her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

it s now only going to make her become a selfish spoiled adult that expects everything on a silver platter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

you should stop with the name brands.

i have name brand gifts for my son but i buy my son nice affordable clothes and toys since they out grow them quick.

i am teaching my son that its not about who looks better or that money is everything cuz its not! its about sharing and helping and working hard for what you want!!